• blady_blah@lemmy.world
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    If this story doesn’t convince you that birth control should be free to anyone who wants it, then you’re an idiot.

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    The essence of the story: Meeting people in person in the real world always is better than looking for someone special on some scammy dating site…

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      especially considering that the dating service is interested in you looking for a partner, not actually finding one

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        By comparison, I know of a couple (met their kid), who had divorced and remarried each other so many times (often but not always with another marriage in between) that the last time they had to go to a different state because my state refused to do it yet again. Apparently the state will let you get married and divorced as many times as you’d like, but only so many times with the same partner.

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    30 day alcohol program is to encourage not drinking for 30 days right?

    And not to be plastered for 30 days like the name implies.

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      Also dating during the first stages of recovery is widely discouraged. The point is to focus on yourself and feel good about yourself, not dump all your energy and focus into a new relationship.

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        Pretty sure given Bacchus is over both alcohol and madness, he’s going to preside over their entire relationship. Fertility too, so they may want to be extra careful with protection.

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          Fortunately for them I’m pretty sure he’s just fertility as in fucking, not fertility as in reproducing. They just have to keep an eye out to stop Hera, Aphrodite, or Demeter from catching on to fhdm

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            fertility as in fucking, not fertility as in reproducing

            One often leads to the other, unless prevented from doing so.

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    Okay so yes it’s green text but…

    I know people who work at inpatient acute facilities and they are constantly having to cockblock people to prevent truly horrible things from happening (think anorexia dating borderline or NPD + NPD)

    So while this particular story may not have happened, this general story happens daily.

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      That tracks. I struggle to maintain boundaries and have a history of BPD folks being into me. It never goes well, and I can’t imagine a psych ward would go any differently

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      yeah you really really want to prevent them to have kids on accident. hell on purpose too.

      those poor kids

      one fucked up parent already fucks up a kid. imagine two

      its a place where people calm down for the first time in forever, bored and together with others in the same situation. ofc romance ensures

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        It’s not some eugenics thing.

        People with borderline have a much higher success rate at maintaining their abusive relationship style with people who are already mentally struggling or otherwise neurodivergent.

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        Worse yet a lot of mental health conditions have genetic components so the kids are basically getting the worst hand you can possibly deal them.

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          also, stress is large trigger of latent mental conditions your at risk for and guess what is incredibly stressful…living at the bottom in amerikkka

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          That’s really not well proven.

          There’s some evidence for and some against. If these two have mental conditions caused by environmental factors that they overcome they may actually provide a really good environment to a child.

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          We should get the government to put a licence on breeding so only the genetically strong can have children

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            Oops that’s eugenics! I get the sentiment but instead we should have a ridiculous amount of resources freely available to children and new parents, healthcare childcare food assistance socialization education. It takes a village and all that.

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              Oops that’s eugenics!

              Eh, eugenics work. If not dog breeds wouldn’t exist.

              We’re just really, really bad at agreeing on what genes are good ones and attempts at filtering for good genes in humans tend to more or less immediately become about skin color because of course they do. And also it being basically impossible to do without massive human rights violations.

              But being difficult, massively immoral and unethical and usually in practice just an excuse for simple racism doesn’t mean it doesn’t work.

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                Eh I mostly don’t disagree, hell eliminating conditions like Huntington’s disease could qualify as eugenics so I don’t really have an issue with it in concept. Problem is if there’s a system in place for widespread eugenics some asshole is gonna use it for a genocide.

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                  Wiping out Huntington’s would be a genocide in the most literal possible sense.

                  To be fair, if not for the whole massively immoral and unethical part, we could wipe out Huntington’s in a generation or two with mandatory testing and sterilizations. But again that whole massively immoral and unethical thing.

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            I get your argument but the broaderidea here is that people in the psych ward aren’t generally making good decisions

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              I mean, genetics are genetics.

              I may have epilepsy and am strongly considering getting a vasectomy so I don’t accidentaly create a fucked up kid that can’t live normally.

              Adoption is always an option an all’at. And plenty of romance can happen without kids… Hell, ESPECIALLY without kids lol.

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                Your personal choice is yours, and nobody can comment it. But making it a legal interdiction? That’s something else entirely. People with disabilities or illnesses can live long, happy and meaningful lives. Even more so if the society weren’t ableist.

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              I mean it sounds harsh, but some people really shouldn‘t have kids. Some because of genetics (adoption is fine) and some because they are clinically insane and would destroy their children‘s psyche (these kids would be better off given up for adoption)

              In reality that‘s hard to achieve, but it is true.

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                it’s one thing to believe in that at a high level, and another to enshrine it into law & enforce it.

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                  The potential of abuse is wayyy to high to actually make laws about that.

                  It would be like saying that eating unhealthy is bad and then passing laws that may lead to someone being executed for eating a Twix.

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                If childcare resources were abundant and free that would offset the problem a great deal, but capitalism and rugged individualism and all that. Like, given all the stupid out there I definitely see the appeal of it, and even things like eliminating genetic disorders would qualify so the line gets kinda fuzzy insofar as the ethics are concerned. The issue is that once systems are in place for wide scale eugenics of any flavor, some asshole will absolutely use it to genocide an ethnic group or other minority.

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            I say we invert it. To prevent aristicracy and nepotism, the wealthy will be prohibited from reproducting. No one in the top 10% of income or wealth gets a baby license.

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              if the 2 richest people were forced to fight to death every year, imagine the rush of wealth donations there’d be every year to not be at the top

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              What if we just make them adopt a kid for every multiple over the 3x over the national average income. So Musk would have to have like 4 million kids. Then you heavily follow them with CPS and fine them for any infraction. Basically making CPS the biggest taxing authority.

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    Can confirm. Got more actual dates with people that are legitimately interested in me from psychiatric hospitals and group therapy than online dating apps.