Believe it or not, straight to therapy.
I’ve heard similar takes resolved with “this person is venomously sexist, but straight.” Once their sexual needs are met, the one thing they want out of a partner is done, it’s back to absolutely loathing women.
Sounds like a nightmare, tbh.
Yeah reading this as a woman is low key terrifying like… if you hate me why tf do you want to fuck me? The idea a person could be so wildly two faced because they’re desperately trying to interact with me in my most vulnerable state is so scary, things like this is why women choose the bear
This reads like one step away from a DV situation
if you hate me why tf do you want to fuck me?
Testosterone is a hell of a drug. I’ve known a few guys who have had at least one gf they only stayed with for the sex and were just putting up with her the rest of the time. Those…generally aren’t very good or healthy relationships. Most of them eventually get out of that mindset and (at least try to) find someone they like being with first and also want to fuck besides.
But then my wife acts shocked that a bunch of women she works with talk like they don’t even like their husbands. All I can think is why marry them then?
Testosterone is a hell of a drug. I’ve known a few guys who have had at least one gf they only stayed with for the sex and were just putting up with her the rest of the time. Those…generally aren’t very good or healthy relationships. Most of them eventually get out of that mindset and (at least try to) find someone they like being with first and also want to fuck besides.
I’ve been guilty of that and I’ve definitely felt that “ok, I came, I’d rather be alone now.” thing described in the post. Regular sex goes a long way in keeping me interested and the most toxic women I’ve been with have always been the best at it. There are women in my life who I like spending time with but that kind of kills my desire to have sex with them. It’s like subconsciously I’m thinking “why would I want to ruin this by bringing sex into it?” or maybe it feels like I’m degrading them if I think about them sexually or I don’t want to take advantage of them. I’m not really sure what’s going on with me there. I mostly just don’t date these days because I have my single life figured out pretty well and bringing someone else into it is always so disruptive and I really don’t get enough out of it to be worth the stress. At least this way I’m not fucking anyone else up with my bullshit.
There’s a name for that: Madonna-whore complex. Might help find resources to help deal with that. Best of luck; it sounds like a hellish experience.
Madonna-whore complex
I’ve been reading up on this and I’m not sure that’s exactly it. I certainly don’t despise women or want to degrade them regardless of whether I’m interested in them sexually or not and I’m really not sexually attracted to women I would think of as “whores” (that’s not really the word I would use except maybe for an actual prostitute, but I assume they mean sexually promiscuous women). I did have a cold but over-bearing mother though so maybe there is something to this. Maybe there is a spectrum and I’m on the lesser end of it.
Thinking about it more I think it’s more due to something with the rejection aspect of it. If I spend enough time with a woman and nothing physical happens it’s like I switch into “platonic mode” even if they are physically attractive. I’ve had the same thing happen in romantic relationships where my girlfriend had a much lower libido than me and it just got to the point where we were barely physically intimate at all because they were shooting me down 90% of the time and I just stopped trying because feel like they’re not interested and it’s just making them feel pressured or annoying them, and feeling I was shitty about myself when I get shot down, so I just reject myself for them until they signal otherwise (which almost never actually happened). This also led me getting lazier with other aspects of the relationship and eventually falling apart because it’s hard to make an effort when you’re always feeling like you’re missing out on one of the best parts (IMO) of being in a relationship. Which again kind of goes against the Madonna complex (at least as I understood it) because that seems to indicate you stay with the “pure” partner you love, which in my case it was kind of the opposite. I was willing to deal with a lot more toxicity to stay with the “whore” partners because they were fulfilling me sexually.
Anyway, thanks for the response it was an interesting rabbit-hole. My experience really isn’t that hellish (at least due to this issue) I feel like I’m coping pretty well in my social life without the romantic aspect. People like me, I like them. It’s all good. Sometimes a little lonely but that’s a pretty rare feeling honestly.
Gay: anon had sex with a woman and hated it
Fake: anon had sex
Open and shut case.
Fake: everything until the linebreak
Gay: everything after the linebreak
Uh, anon, vaginas aren’t supposed to be washed. That disrupts the microbiome and can lead to infections.
It isn’t washed with soap, but it is washed with water
Vulvas can be washed with water and unscented, mild soap if tolerated but not vaginas, they are self-cleaning.
I… am fairly sure he means ‘unwashed’ in the sense of ‘impure’, aka, ‘not a virgin’.
Still awful, but… that’s how I read this…?
He could also mean both the more literal and more metaphorical meanings simultaneously.
Not sure.
Why wife uses a bidet and soap, every single use. She’s never had a UTI or any other issue down there. Explain.
I can’t explain that tbh. Would you like me to have a look???
I’m trying my hardest to picture how one would attempt to wash a vagina with a bidet, and the only conclusion I’m getting here that makes any sense is that you probably don’t even know what a vagina is.
Here’s a little hint for all you confused straight boys: the vagina is the hole, and the bits on the outside are collectively referred to as the vulva. For most of you reading this, the only practical application of this knowledge you’ll ever get is maybe leaving slightly more anatomically correct comments in the replies to a greentext, but who knows?
Why are you mentioning “straight boys”? Do you think gay men have a deeper understanding of vaginas (they tend not to).
Bro really just forgot women exist
Yeah just let the jizz stew there naturally
I love greentext communities on lemmy because it’s the exact sort of place where you can effortlessly bait the most bitchless men ever to have existed into confidently stating they don’t know how vaginas work 💅💅💅
Girlfriend, if you don’t even wash out the jizz it’s gonna be rank down there. I don’t mean with bleach but gotta rinse that shit with water at least.
I understand you might feel self-conscious about after unprotected sex if it causes a smell, but it is not good practice to rinse your vagina with water, vulva is ok but not vaginas. Vaginas are self cleaning, semen is taken out with vaginal discharge.
this is false
I come around and collect it
Oh great, we have a cum fairy.
I can’t wrap my mind around not wanting it gone as soon as possible
At that point, condoms are probably better. It’s easy cleanup and you don’t have to deal with semen.
Yeah, does seemen not like, impregnate people?
I don’t mean doing some deep cleaning and yeah it might not be all natural to wash out cum but it’s pretty nasty if someone doesn’t do that.
It’s like how washing your hair with products isn’t natural and can actually take away good oils and stuff, but people are still going to be put off if your hair is mad oily and smelly.
I think the disconnect here is that washing your hair usually doesn’t lead to health problems the way washing a vagina does (douching even with water causes pelvic inflammatory disease, for example). It is your choice, I just wanted to provide information about vaginal health because this mentality sounds like it comes from shame rather than any health reason. It’s not nasty (again, shame), vaginas do have smells like when you’re on your period. Mine only smelled weird with one partner, and even then I’ve never had a smell for very long unless there was an actual infection going on. Smells are usually no big deal, assuming there isn’t an infection. I know you mentioned it smelling “rank” before, I think you might benefit from visiting a gynecologist. Again, no shame, vaginas are a normal part of life for some of the population.
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/my-discharge-smells-like-my-boyfriend
I really don’t think this person has a vagina.
It’s not going to be rank. Vaginas are self-cleaning - this is one reason we have discharge. You don’t wash out a vagina.
The vulva can be cleaned with water or (for those who can tolerate it without developing irritation or an infection) an intimate soap.
What other parts aren’t meant to be washed? Asking for a friend.
Eyeballs are self-cleaning as well.
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Annon needs to wash his right hand
Anon should be dumped, or break up and find someone he likes. Or just find friends with benefits, or an escort?
POS…probably a future cop
try therapy
Anon discovers he might be gay
To quote Neil Patrick Harris- “yes, I’m gay. Gay for that pussy. “
-Neil Patrick Harris
Quote attributable to one Neil Patrick Harris. His friends call him Neil. I’m not allowed to call him Neil.
The first half, because of testosterone.
The second half, because of prolactin.
It’s not really that simple, but it’s part of it. And I’m not a doctor.
No, and no. Not even just “not that simple”. You’re dead wrong. That’s like saying I got from home to work because of “wheel”. It’s involved but it does not drive the show
I just can’t fathom how that happens, after cooming all that I want to do is cuddles and kisses ?? Ride the endorphins high together…
I think it means he’s not really that into her but just gets horny for her.
I guess… But I don’t have sex anymore so idk 🤷
