I am so sick of “yeah I’ll be there in ten minutes” and then I look and I’m blocked or some shit.
Is it just gooning/fishing for pictures?
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Some will be fishing for pictures
Some just enjoy the hunt. Once they know that they are guaranteed to get laid, the thrill of the chase is over
Some will be in relationships they’re unhappy with, and want the validation of being desired without actually going through with things
Some get a stark hit to their horny brain when they realise that they are actually about to go through with things, and realise that it’s not actually what they want
There are as many different reasons as there are different people
I’ve been on both sides of this scenario, but I’ll explain why I have flaked in the past to maybe help you understand why it could happen.
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The individual suddenly becomes impatient/aggressive within the time that was given. Not only is this a big turnoff in general, it is also concerning and leads me to reconsider the safety of the scenario.
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The individual communicates well up to the point i confirm the meet. Suddenly, they are taking a significant amount of time to respond, so i assume they are not interested or asleep. I will sometimes wake up to find they were messaging long after we last talked, almost as if they decided to flake, but wanted it to appear as if I did.
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Their demeanor completely changed once we agreed to meet. To be clear, I mean they suddenly become very disrespectful and demeaning. I don’t know them, so to move to that type of interaction without discussion or prior involvement makes that person unsafe in my opinion.
I will sometimes wake up to find they were messaging long after we last talked, almost as if they decided to flake, but wanted it to appear as if I did.
I hate this so much.
My kink is shooting for a “high score” - I like having multiple partners in a night. It’s so unbelievably frustrating when they do this, especially when they hit me up again hours later, because I’ve often declined someone who probably wouldn’t have flaked.
We’re all adults here, if you aren’t coming then just say it. (Barring those safety situations where it seems like the guy might get aggressive)
I don’t think I ever come across as aggressive (at least when it comes to sex). I’m offering something, if it’s wanted then come and take it.
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I’ve gotten a lot of “talk to you tomorrow” then the next day the convo doesn’t exist. I’m guessing it’s either bots or humans with unreal short attention spans. The Grindr Turing test requires a face pic in the profile and evidence of a personality.
I’ve done a little of that for safety reasons. If they already have my address and are getting weird I’ll tell them we can meet tomorrow and then quietly block them when they are offline.
Usually when they start pressing about condoms or other boundaries. Been playing this game long enough to know what a stealther looks like.
I’m not a top and I’m very upfront about safe sex. I don’t know why someone would feel unsafe with me but frankly it offends me every time. I’m just describing one side of an interaction, and it’s possible that I haven’t properly communicated here how those interactions go down.