I am so sick of “yeah I’ll be there in ten minutes” and then I look and I’m blocked or some shit.

Is it just gooning/fishing for pictures?

  • Univ3rse@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    7 days ago

    I’ve been on both sides of this scenario, but I’ll explain why I have flaked in the past to maybe help you understand why it could happen.

    1. The individual suddenly becomes impatient/aggressive within the time that was given. Not only is this a big turnoff in general, it is also concerning and leads me to reconsider the safety of the scenario.

    2. The individual communicates well up to the point i confirm the meet. Suddenly, they are taking a significant amount of time to respond, so i assume they are not interested or asleep. I will sometimes wake up to find they were messaging long after we last talked, almost as if they decided to flake, but wanted it to appear as if I did.

    3. Their demeanor completely changed once we agreed to meet. To be clear, I mean they suddenly become very disrespectful and demeaning. I don’t know them, so to move to that type of interaction without discussion or prior involvement makes that person unsafe in my opinion.

    • freeusething@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
      3·
      7 days ago

      I will sometimes wake up to find they were messaging long after we last talked, almost as if they decided to flake, but wanted it to appear as if I did.

      I hate this so much.

      My kink is shooting for a “high score” - I like having multiple partners in a night. It’s so unbelievably frustrating when they do this, especially when they hit me up again hours later, because I’ve often declined someone who probably wouldn’t have flaked.

      We’re all adults here, if you aren’t coming then just say it. (Barring those safety situations where it seems like the guy might get aggressive)

      I don’t think I ever come across as aggressive (at least when it comes to sex). I’m offering something, if it’s wanted then come and take it.