i mean i think it’s okay to not be madly in love, so long as both people are on the same page about the situation.
If both people are only in the relationship because they can’t find any other relationship, so long as both are aware and okay with that then it’s a hell of a lot better than nothing. And who knows, maybe at some point they realize “oh shit we’re actually in love”
That’s me right there. I feel guilty because I’m not really attracted to my loved one’s appearance - ‘basic white blonde/ginger bitch & nerd’ is moreso my weak spot. But they don’t look like that at all.
On the other hand, they’re really kind and sweet. And that makes me feel even more guilty because I couldn’t bring it to my heart to say, sorry but no. But on the other hand, I shouldn’t be so judging on appearances. Gruhhh!! Maybe it’s my own dysphoria and lack of uterus or definite femme appearances, but still, ugh.
i kinda hate the idea that simply not being attracted to someone is “judging their appearance”, i don’t understand where society got that idea.
Like what are you supposed to do, gaslight yourself into finding them attractive? no matter how i turn it, it just feels incredibly abusive towards the person who isn’t attracted.
Don’t ever settle for someone with whom liking you is optional. Love with all your heart and make sure to feel loved.
There will be plenty of time for love once capitalism is destroyed.
i mean i think it’s okay to not be madly in love, so long as both people are on the same page about the situation.
If both people are only in the relationship because they can’t find any other relationship, so long as both are aware and okay with that then it’s a hell of a lot better than nothing. And who knows, maybe at some point they realize “oh shit we’re actually in love”
That’s me right there. I feel guilty because I’m not really attracted to my loved one’s appearance - ‘basic white blonde/ginger bitch & nerd’ is moreso my weak spot. But they don’t look like that at all.
On the other hand, they’re really kind and sweet. And that makes me feel even more guilty because I couldn’t bring it to my heart to say, sorry but no. But on the other hand, I shouldn’t be so judging on appearances. Gruhhh!! Maybe it’s my own dysphoria and lack of uterus or definite femme appearances, but still, ugh.
i kinda hate the idea that simply not being attracted to someone is “judging their appearance”, i don’t understand where society got that idea.
Like what are you supposed to do, gaslight yourself into finding them attractive? no matter how i turn it, it just feels incredibly abusive towards the person who isn’t attracted.
Meh
“Make sure to feel loved” LOL