• TheBlindPew@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    1 day ago

    Just taking this opportunity to remind everyone that Louis C.K. has never made any tangible steps to make amends with the women he abused and yet he still goes on podcasts and talks about how the reporting on his sexual misconduct damaged his life and reputation as though he is the true victim

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      Source? From Wikipedia:

      Both Corry and Schachner stated that C.K. privately apologized for his past behavior several years later.[142][144]

      In response to The New York Times reporting, C.K. released a statement apologizing and admitting guilt, writing, “These stories are true” and saying that while he initially thought “it was okay because I never showed a woman my dick without asking first”, he went on to express remorse, stating, “the power I had over these women is that they admired me. And I wielded that power irresponsibly.”

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        Yeah out of all of the people, Louis has done his best to make amends. He did wrong, but we shouldn’t shame someone for apologizing and doing his best to make it right.

        I loved his comedy before, and was heartbroken when I learned. I payer close attention to it. I believe what he said, he never even considered or thought about coersion, that the women weren’t comfortable. He learned he was wrong and not knowing wasn’t an excuse. Out of everyone, we should hope more men learn from Louis. He took the hard but honorable path. Is he fully redeemed? Only he can know, but he’s working on it.

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          I disagree. Firstly, if you want a masterclass on repentance, see Dan Harmon’s apology. Made actual tangible steps to better himself, and devoted an entire podcast episode to apologizing, and spent about 0 seconds of that podcast feeling sorry for himself or lamenting that he got caught, or complaining about the financial effect it had on him. Plus, he doesn’t deny the story of the woman he harrassed.

          None of this is true for Louis CK. He says “everything they say is true”, but then every chance he gets on his gigantic public platform, he repeats the blatant lie that he got consent. He didn’t. In none of the women he harrassed’s stories, he asks for consent. They deny that he asked for consent. All of them. And in his “apologies” he keeps repeating that he asked for consent. That’s not an apology, that’s just a lie.

          His “apologies” are mostly made up of three parts. The first is a sneaky denial of the victim’s stories, the second he spends some time complaining about how this makes him feel, and how it affected him financially, and that he’s looking to get back on top of things and better his situation. And then the third is where he explains that there’s nothing he can do to make the world tangibly a better place (like, idk, staying the fuck away, donating to a charity for victims of sexual assault, trying to do anything to fix the careers he destroyed), and that all he can really do are these vague platitudes that help no one like (I wish I were making this up) “shaking one hand at a time”.

          It’s hard for me to think of a worse realistic public apology. Maybe “I didn’t do it, but I’m sorry if you feel I hurt you” although that’s already pretty close to what Louis CK is doing.

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            3 hours ago

            Just going to add on, that in the YouTube series linked above that there is a direct comparison of how Loius and Dan Harmon both handled it and that you’ve summarized the differences quite well

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              I think he makes some very good points but I also think it could have been about 1/3 as long if it was better edited.

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        “without asking first” they said no, by the way. and he sexually harassed them anyway. he specifically crafts his words to make it sound like he got consent, when he very much didn’t

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            whoops my bad, i think i misremembered that they said no. they were stunned into silence and then he did it anyway. and then claimed that he always asked first, in order to minimise his responsibility.

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            They didn’t said no, they didn’t say yes either. And he took the lack of negative as consent. He was wrong, and has since recognized as much and promised to be different. Dude is a creep but he is not nearly the worst. He has always agreed with the victim’s recollection of the events and haven’t tried to twist their words. He thought it was OK and he got consent, didn’t realize he was wrong until later. In the history of the Me Too movement, he had the best reaction one could hope from an aggressor.

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      I have seen him on a few podcasts talking about his shame and steps he has taken to realise the full impact of what he did and how he has changed

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        Your comment does seem to confirm TheBlindPew’s point, that it’s all about him. Did he apologize to the women?

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          I mean in fairness he was the one on the podcast and was potentially asked about it… I have no idea what he did or didn’t with the women but I would hope he has tried to apologize personally

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            From everything ive seen he’s not actually apologized TO the women he abused, he has only ever really made public apologies where he says “this is all true, i thought I was okay by asking for consent beforehand” when there is credible reporting that on multiple occasions he did not even bother to ask for consent.

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            He’s a public figure who sexually assaulted public figures… In those situations, they usually do publicly apologize.

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              Well if you feel he hasn’t done enough you should probably avoid supporting him I guess

              Pretty loose definition of sexual assault you are using also

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                I honestly fucking hate that you’re making me look this shit up and read about it again. It’s was not just over the phone:

                As soon as they sat down in his room, still wrapped in their winter jackets and hats, Louis C.K. asked if he could take out his penis, the women said.

                They thought it was a joke and laughed it off. “And then he really did it,” Ms. Goodman said in an interview with The New York Times. “He proceeded to take all of his clothes off, and get completely naked, and started masturbating.”

                https://www.nytimes.com/2017/11/09/arts/television/louis-ck-sexual-misconduct.html

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                  14 hours ago

                  Sounds like he asked for consent to me

                  There is the question of if the power dynamic made it inappropriate obviously

                  Definitely not sexual assault in my eyes, watching someone jack off isn’t the end of the world, there is a reason there was no charges or conviction

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                    Alright Louis, it’s time to log off.

                    For real though, this is some serious psychopath logic. Consent isn’t just merely asking the question of whether you can do what you want to do without even waiting for a clear-cut response. If I ask someone if I can break their phone, they laugh because they think I’m joking, and then I go and actually do it — guess what? There was never any consent.

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                    Cool.

                    I hope you’re never in a position where the person with an inordinate amount of power over your career puts you into a situation like that.

                    Hint: There cannot be consent here due to the power imbalance.

                    Even if that wasn’t true, what you just described isn’t consent. I fear for every young woman that comes in contact with you.

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                There’s also the fact that he also had to “apologize” for attempts to cover it up and make sure it didn’t go public by pressuring victims (or had his manager doing it). Only apologized after someone finally did go public with evidence.

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                this is 2026. nuance is gone in these times now. people are either 100% good or 100% evil.

                no in between, anymore unfortunately.

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                  unfortunately

                  Sorry, you think it’s “unfortunate” that sex pests are being called out now? This isn’t about someone being 100% good or evil at all, it’s so much simpler than that.

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                    I think given the nature of the assault, he is probably alright to come back, honestly.

                    he’s already been called out. you’re making it sound like he raped babies or something.

                    people can change and rebuild their lives. and I think he’s free to do that.

                    you can not like it. that’s fine. just don’t watch his stuff or follow him. its not rocket surgery.

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                    The sex pest was called out. He lost multiple ongoing projects and hasn’t had any notable work for literal years. He was never taken to court and has still apologized for both his behavior and directly to the women involved.

                    Clearly none of that is enough for most people, so what is enough do you think? Like, the man was no Weinstein; get real.

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      Crazy how many people below you are defending this piece of shit and regurgitating the lies he’s spread over the years. It’s just pathetic.