I’m a man. Only ever dated, been attracted to women. Recently I met this guy and I’m having weird feelings. I can’t quite tell if I’m attracted to him as a person or just like the way he treats me; nonetheless something makes me want to treat him differently than any other guys - the way I would a girl I suppose. My friends say I might be attracted to femininity in general regardless of gender and that’s why I feel this way, and the reason why it hasn’t surfaced until now is because I haven’t yet met a guy to tick those boxes. Wondering if anyone has been through something similar.

    • TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works
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      19 days ago

      I picture an old man with a really scraggly beard laying on a couch with a beer in one hand, cigarette in the other saying this lol

    • LustyArgonian@lemmy.world
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      19 days ago

      Sexual identity is simply a descriptor of the type of adults you generally go for. It is a quick way to explain to another person what you are into. It’s not really necessary to explicitly label, but it can be helpful.

      It’s not prescriptive, it’s descriptive.

      It’s taking a step back and looking at your self critically, like an art piece. Who am I? How might others see me? How might I communicate myself to others? Am I living authentically to me? OP is noticing new details that is making them reconsider their own ego. That’s all normal human connection and philosophy. Thinking isn’t childish, lol.

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      19 days ago

      That’s not exactly true. Being able to talk about sexual identity using specific terms is highly useful for people who are in relatively unsafe communities.