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Professional developer and amateur gardener located near Atlanta, GA in the USA.

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  • Obviously my past experiences have made me who I am, but plenty of neurotypical people are unique and have skills too. I genuinely believe I’d be the same person I am today but “better” if I didn’t have ADHD. I don’t want to sound like a doomer, but it’s genuinely difficult for me to do basic things. The narrative that disabilities are actually super powers is deeply troubling to me. At times it can even feel like toxic positivity.

    I’m not trying to say you’re doing anything wrong by describing your ADHD as such. I don’t see a problem with it. I view it similar to the way some people who are deaf don’t want to be able to hear. Nobody can dictate your experience to you. You know what is best for you. Individuals with ADHD saying things like that don’t bother me. What bothers me is when neurotypical people do it or it’s a trend.

    I got into an argument with someone about this before. They were using the idea of hyper focus as being a super power. If the planets align and I’m able to hyper focus on what I need to be doing at the time and somehow I don’t need to be doing anything else then sure, it’s a super power. More often it’s me being unable to stop thinking about something I’m fixated on for days. Losing sleep while I think about it. It distracting me from work. It distracting me from friends. Only to just suddenly leave making me wonder why I’m not interested in the thing I had been obsessed with for so long.








  • I understand that Lemmy can be viewed as an answer to this question, but it’s not for me. I’m looking for an actual forum, with a sense of community.

    The community here is small enough that I’ve started recognizing names.

    The whole decentralization aspect of the Feidverse seems great to prevent enshittification, or to prevent a billionaire from buying and tanking the place, but I don’t really see it ever appealing to normal, non tech savvy people.

    I don’t understand what the gripe is. You’re already here. The only nuisance is picking an instance. After that, you don’t need to worry about it.