znonymous [comrade/them, love/loves]

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  • First of all, you are absolutely not wrong. You are not crazy. Nearly everyone you meet is both stupid and deeply evil. I am not kidding.

    Fortunately, most people have a fear of other people seeing that evilness and stupidity, and try to at least pretend, and cover it up.

    That said, you lose nothing by treating everyone, even the brutes and the bullies, with kindness and patience, to the degree that you are willing to expend the emotional energy required.

    Don’t waste your time worrying about what other people are thinking. Just treat everyone with a baseline level of kindness.

    If someone mistreats you, do your best to avoid such people. If you feel trapped around such people, remind yourself that this situation is not permanent. In the meantime, focus on yourself – improve control over your emotional reactions in the difficult moment. Practice staying calm. Do not give outside observers a reason to take the side of your oppressor.

    Practice meditation. Train yourself to be aware of your nervous system. Try to notice your breathing. If it is too shallow, breathe a little more deeply.

    Also remember to forgive yourself. We all mess up. We’re all pretty stupid and at least a little bit evil. Focus on changing what you have the power to change about yourself. Because nobody else is going to change themselves for you.

    (Don’t read too much into my use of the word evil. I am using the secular definition, not the religious one.)

    Always remember, you are worthy of love and compassion.

    And finally: get lots of sleep, rest, healthy food, and exercise. Avoid substance abuse, especially alcohol. When you stay healthy, you will be best prepared for the trials this world will without a doubt bring you.








  • Every single time I get the rare chance to witness someone trying to organize more than ten people to do anything vaguely political, like talk about taking concrete steps to stop our government from unaliving children in other countries, it is plain how incredibly difficult the resulting onslaught of naysayers and argumentative donothings is.

    I wish I knew what to say. I wish I could do what you are doing. But I have some truly insane circumstances that make fulfilling my responsibilities to my family feel truly overwhelming. So I can’t even begin to consider working on an organizational project.