Oh no, I only wish. I short circuit and get depressed, feeling like people are lying to me and only being nice to me to get me to shut up and go away. It’s something I’ve been working on for a while now, even accepting simple compliments without minimizing them or acting like the person who is giving the compliment doesn’t know enough about me to make that judgment and therefore they’re wrong. I really hate it, honestly. Because my crooked mind thinks “oh you’re just being humble and realistic” when I’m actually actively tearing down positive thoughts about myself. This is a thing that is irrespective of my gender, it’s just a “me” problem in general.
Used to do this (and still do on darker days), but therapy really helped me with this. My therapist asked me why I give out compliments. I and everyone I know does it to make the complemented person feel better. Doesn’t matter if it’s true or not. They do it because they care about you.
Hope this helps, otherwise I’m there is also the cogito app which is free and gives goot tasks to work on self esteem and you can look up meta cognitive training, I’m sure there are free resources on the internat for that aswell. Just know you’re not alone <3
First half is true, second half…
Oh no, I only wish. I short circuit and get depressed, feeling like people are lying to me and only being nice to me to get me to shut up and go away. It’s something I’ve been working on for a while now, even accepting simple compliments without minimizing them or acting like the person who is giving the compliment doesn’t know enough about me to make that judgment and therefore they’re wrong. I really hate it, honestly. Because my crooked mind thinks “oh you’re just being humble and realistic” when I’m actually actively tearing down positive thoughts about myself. This is a thing that is irrespective of my gender, it’s just a “me” problem in general.
Used to do this (and still do on darker days), but therapy really helped me with this. My therapist asked me why I give out compliments. I and everyone I know does it to make the complemented person feel better. Doesn’t matter if it’s true or not. They do it because they care about you.
Hope this helps, otherwise I’m there is also the cogito app which is free and gives goot tasks to work on self esteem and you can look up meta cognitive training, I’m sure there are free resources on the internat for that aswell. Just know you’re not alone <3