ID: Drawing of a duck billed platypus underwater, they’re wearing a rainbow coloured t shirt and a pink bum-bag, and saying: “Ally is not something you can self-identify as, it’s a title that you earn. Let your actions speak for themselves!”

Credit: Sophie Labelle

  • ShareMySims@sh.itjust.worksOP
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    15 days ago

    “I have a marginalised sister who I want to support, but a generalised post on the internet that I took as a personal attack (if the shoe fits ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ ) hurt my feelings by not prioritising them above her oppression and the oppression of those like her, and didn’t make sure to centre me and praise me for my minimal empathy every step of the way, so now I’m not gonna! I’M tHe rEaL vIctiM hEre! sToP oPprEsSiNg mE!!!11” 🙄

    You self identified allies just can’t fucking help but out yourselves, can you?

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      15 days ago

      I have been active for decades in support of LGBT rights. Your commentary here is poisonous enough to bother me. This is not the way.

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        12 days ago

        Your commentary here is poisonous enough to bother me

        Then I guess your “allyship” is more about your ego than it is about the people you’re using as a debate tool and a trophy… ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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          12 days ago

          You are just looking to instigate. You will be ashamed one day of the vomit you post now. I wont feed the trolls.

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            12 days ago

            They necro’d a reply of mine as well with a similar statement, and I never even suggested any sort of stance or affiliation on the topic. I didn’t respond.

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      15 days ago

      That person wants you to tell them what to do. They’re looking to you as a leader. Embrace the opportunity to make change by being a good leader who gives clear instructions.

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        15 days ago

        I am not interested in leading anyone, and my life, and the lives of marginalised people in general aren’t a fucking educational opportunity. We are not obligated to invest endless time and energy, which we are already deprived of due to having to fight just to exist, to earn that right to exist from those more privileged than us.

        If they genuinely want to be good allies, literally all they have to do is open a search engine and start looking through the endless information that already exists out there and start from there, instead of demanding it be spoon fed directly too them by the people directly impacted (and therefore fatigued), especially after they’ve shown zero initiative or interests in educating themselves.

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          15 days ago

          especially after they’ve shown zero initiative or interests in educating themselves.

          That’s literally what they’re trying to do right here and now and your spitting in their faces. Maybe don’t post memes about how to be an ally if you don’t want to actually help anyone be an ally, it’s more counterproductive to your cause than the apathetic allies you’re bemoaning.

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            14 days ago

            What did they even say? I think they deleted their account or got perma banned from their instance because I can’t even find their account on their instance now.

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              14 days ago

              They just asked what they could do to help be an ally, but it turns out the post OP is just a concern troll and doesn’t actually give a shit about allyship.