Let’s be realistic here, every time someone tells you so and so is their girlfriend or boyfriend or husband and wife. That means they’re getting it on. That means everything in this cartoon except maybe they use protection.
This is the stupidest load of bullshit meme around. If people tell you they’re trying to get pregnant, that’s letting you in on their life planning, not letting you in their sex life. They have a sex life, and whether or not they’re planning on getting pregnant, they’re still having sex. Grow up and get over it.
We’re Trying from SNL is my favorite turnabout around this culture.
I can imagine OP’s reaction when they see a pregnant woman:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKwBjuthGgE
-These women totally turn me on.
-Waitresses?
-No, damn it, the pregnant ones! When I see one, I think they’ve been fucked. This one, for example; she’s sprawled out, they’ve fucked her, they’ve cum inside her, they’ve left the lump inside her… How else the hell (could she have gotten pregnant)?
WTF is up with Lemmy lately? At times it seems like it’s been overrun by a bunch of pearl clutchers and prudes.
Like, it’s ok to talk about sex. Sex is a natural, healthy component of most relationships. Someone mentioning something adjacently related to sex shouldn’t send you into an R-rated tizzy, and if it does, you might want to examine your thoughts and feelings about sex, because they probably aren’t all healthy.
They want us to all go back to saying things like ‘she’s in a delicate condition’ and shit lol
Basically the state of
RedditLemmy atm
It honestly seems to be male sexually that people have a problem with.
Does it? Honestly?
Because the dialog seems to always bring on the discussion about rape
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When your porn addiction is your only personality trait.
Hey now, I will have you know that I am also addicted to video games!
That makes two personality traits.
Serious porn addiction explains so many of the things I see in online forums.
Uh, got any examples? Asking for a friend.
When someone says “I’m going to the bathroom” they are not guilty of forcing you to visualise them shitting.
Agreed. However, in fairness, if a person goes to the bathroom to poop then one probably will have forgotten by the time they left the room, but if instead a couple looks at each other meaningfully, excuses themselves for a bit, and then returns slightly flustered, then one will have a harder time forgetting.
As another example, if one sees a member of the attractive sex naked, then the first visceral emotional response will be to their sexiness and not to how efficiently their butt could be used for pooping.
So the analogy doesn’t quite fit, and that explains why sex-adjacent things can trigger sex parts of the brain, even when this reaction is undesired, which I think was the point of the comic–not to make some kind of grand statement about the propriety of telling people that you are trying for a baby. (And really, in the end, it is just a dumb joke, and in my opinion the slobbering detracted from the humor value so it was not executed as well as it could have been.)
anti-natalists really seem to be primarily composed of developmentally stunted eggshells
The funny thing about the comic is that I’ve heard this exact joke from a gay couple, responding to a straight couple saying it.
“What’s your New Years plans?”
“This year, we’re finally going for it. We’re going to try for a baby”
“Oh honey… messy kiss with partner… we’ve been going in raw for years. But hope you have better luck.”
Imagine if a couple said they were considering adoption and someone responded by saying how tight their partner’s butthole is
I mean, again, this joke gets made all the time.
But you do need to know your audience. OP seems to think “we’re trying to have a baby” is personally offensive, so I have to assume they have very thin skin.
Oh yeah of course, I’m sure it was funny in context because most people are fairly normal about the subject of having children
The internet is just amplifying terminally juvenile perspectives as usual
Or maybe… it is just a dumb joke?
I’ve seen this exact comic circulate on Lemmy before. I think it is mildly amusing because it has the dumb kind of humor that I like, but the slobbering kind of made it weird which detracted from the humor value.
this is the dumbest most infantile shit tbf
For some reason, I’m reminded of an episode from the original Matlock series, where the murderer of the episode had a fake alibi with his wife, saying that “we’re trying to get pregnant” when the murder happened.
Wish I remembered what I was supposed to be doing right now as well as that.
Look, all I am saying is that if you go out of your way to talk about how you are trying to have a baby and you are fairly attractive then my brain might file that information away for… later purposes.
Anytime someone announces their pregnancy, my mind quickly goes to “hah! I knew it! You were doing the sex!”
Same issue when we announced to my in-laws that my gf was pregnant. “Are they just now getting confirmation that our relationship hasn’t just been an innocent friendship with an occasional pecking kiss?”
my ex told her brother “congrats on the creampie” when they announced their pregnancy. pretty sure it was in public with a dozen people in attendance
Lmao this is great
HappyRoadkill rarely misses.
Vixin is their best character. Their back story is perfection!
I never really understood this take. To me it’s just a goal that they’re sharing with me. Like if they told me they just got married I’m not going to take it as them gloating about the wedding night specifically.
Prudism. That’s the take.
Rather read Oglaf any day than this pearl-clutching nonsense.
I don’t know any context about the artist or anything that might change it, but my initial take was that it’s mocking the pearl clutching, not partaking in it.
Oglaf is awesome!
I also don’t get it. By extension one should also see the same “disgusting” reaction about absolutely everyone’s parents. Because guess what, this is how we reproduce.
Yet most people aren’t shocked when they learn somebody has children.
Wait, what? There’s no way my parents ever … What!!! OMG …
Nah you were adopted.
I know my mother fucks, in fact she has a wildly active sex life after the divorce. Doesn’t mean I want to hear about it.
But if a pregnancy happens it would be good to know about cause that has a LOT of things related to that fact that needs to be considered.
But just trying to have a kid? Why the fuck do I want to hear about other people fucking if I’m not involved. Unless your inviting me to join keep it to your self.
I’m happy to say grats on the pregnancy after the fucking is done tho, but seriously… Phrasing and context matters people.
Well you see you’re not a massive pervert.
I agree with AyuTsukasa, I don’t understand it. And I am a massive pervert, like a serious deviant.
Unfortunately(fortunately?) you’re not as massive a pervert as the artist. I mean I don’t even know what extra long tongues have to do with reproduction - seems the character they drew is just so constantly horny they hallucinate their fetish at the slightest mention of anything related to sex.
Well I AM a massive pervert and I agree with them
Also why does having a baby automatically have to be about the sex? Yes you need sex to have one but thats not the point. People want kids.
You don’t need sex to have a kid, actually. There’s the adoption process and IVF as well. Both would also technically be “trying for a baby”, but people usually are more specific when talking about those.
Which just means sex is even more besides the point of having a baby so no need to be so weird about it.
That said It’s pretty important in sex education to acknowledge that babies can result from PIV sex.
Do you know how many years it takes to adopt a kid, assuming that you actually do get to adopt one and aren’t turned down?
That was exactly my point. It absolutely qualifies as “trying to/working on having a kid”, definitely as much or more so than tracking cycles for unprotected sex. Similar for the IVF process.
It’s work and it’s not easy.
Making a kid probably takes a year (<3 months to try and conceive, 9 months for pregnancy) or so, unless you have issues with fertility. Adoption can take, like, a decade, assuming that you are considered a suitable adoptive parent in the first place. (I’m pretty sure that many places discriminate against disabled people here, and almost everywhere you have to be married.)
they did not say they’re having a baby. they’re trying to have a baby. no baby yet, but they are doing things to have one
Yes, people have sex and it’s perfectly alright to talk about it. There’s nothing bad about being open in that front.
I really dont see your point.
Their point is they have sexual hangups.
my point is that it makes no sense for a couple to announce that they just started having sex and there’s no pregnancy yet. when there is now, or if they have been trying for long without success, that could be newsworthy, but otherwise it’s literally just announcing that you two started having unprotected sex.
They probably started the conversation because it’s a big topic for them. It’s a huge decision to make and they want to share it with others. They probably want to talk about the family plans they have, not the practical sex part - but if they did want to talk about sex, there’s nothing wrong about thar either.
but if they did want to talk about sex, there’s nothing wrong about thar either.
It’s wild that this gets pushback here.
The incel adjacent portion of the left is pretty strong and you can find them in droves on Lemmy, it’s amazing how much pushback healthy relationships and sexuality gets on this site, but as long as you chant the same things as other progressives you get a pass for having attitudes that are destructive to society. I’m not sure why we’ve allowed this segment to go unchallenged for as long as we have.
Sexual insecurity is the tool of fascism, it’s not a valid identity to embrace.
It’s because of the term trying. They are TRYING to have a kid, which explictedly means they are fucking.
Now on the other hand if you said “we are pregnant and having a kid” that’s different. Your sharing the actual event of having the kid and that the wife is actively pregnant. This also has the secondary effect of notifying those it’s told to that the wife may need special consideration due to the pregnancy.
No one gives a fuck or wants to hear about you fucking, but once the fucking is done there is an actual actively useful purpose to telling people that there is an active pregnancy.
Phrasing matters.
People have sex and it’s ok to talk about it.
Right, and similarly, we shouldn’t tell people that we’re planning to propose. It’s ridiculous to tell your friends about the major changes you are planning for your life. Filthy animals.
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Get over yourself.
Phrasing matters.
Nah, sorry… if this bothers you at all, you have hangups. People talk all the time about their plans for their relationships or future, if you can’t deal with that without having sexual imagery planted into your head, that’s a skill issue. Or maybe a deeper issue that actually does need to be addressed, OCD is a branch of anxiety disorder and are often treated similarly. A lot of people live with OCD and the uninvited thoughts and images it can put in your mind without realizing it’s even a condition and just assume they’re “anxious” but get more and more obsessed with certain words, situations or imagery they can’t shut out.
I dunno it just seems like a reach to me. It’s just them wanting to share that they decided to take the next step in their relationship. They’re excited and just want others to be excited with them.
It also does not explicitly mean they are fucking… IVF is pretty common.
People have sex in relationships… is it that different if they’re not using protection?
Mrw my coworker tells me they have to use the bathroom during a meeting and I start violently vomiting from the visceral images and imagined scent of their shit and piss. And then everyone acts like I’M the weird one
Most couples don’t go around talking about their regular boning schedule over dinner.
I thought ‘boning’ would already be implied among regular adults even if they weren’t talking about it.
Not sure i understand why it’s a big deal tho.
Having a baby is completely aside from it. The sex part is going to be the most insignificant part of that baby’s life.
I can’t speak for you personally but it’s not like everyone goes around imagining our parents doing it just to ponder our existence. Or that our parents pondered every single ancestor doing it just leading to them to have a baby now.
I would hope We all know where babies come from by now. Not sure why a persons brain has to break like it’s a new concept decades after sex Ed. I mean unless your sex Ed was that bad and you just realized now that sex isn’t just a activity for passing time. If so : my condolences. Those instruments betwixt everyone’s legs do have proper function to continue the human race apparently. I know: shocking. Big whoop? There ya go. Maybe you can get back to eating dinner in peace now.
I feel like there are more adults, but not nearly as many grownups as there used to be. Or at least as many as I expected.
Dude, that’s way too fuckin’ deep a comment to read for how close to having just woke up I am. I’m going to be thinking about this all day now.
That’s a fair take.
Everybody poops but I don’t talk about it over dinner
What about breakfast, that first coffee is magical for some.
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