I wonder if you could make an oxtail stew equivalent with this. Looks good!
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I really relate to that. I also find it really hard to give myself permission to rest and unwind. There’s a lot of guilt in there for me about not being productive enough.
I had to start working on it when I burnt out hard earlier this year though.
It sounds to me like you already are doing plenty of things or planning to, so I’ll tell you something that was said to me by a therapist once:
It sounds like you’re looking at your self worth conditionally. You need to do X, then you’ll be Y. The thing is, that’s a journey with no end. You’ll always find something else you don’t have if you think of yourself this way.
You need to work on unconditional self worth. How can you give yourself grace on the days when you just sit around and watch YouTube videos? Are you really worthless if you never learn an instrument?
This may not vibe with you, but one technique I’ve been told is to think of your child self. Imagine this little girl or boy you used to be standing in front of you. They feel horrible because they haven’t done this or that. Would you chastise them for it? Or would you pick them up and give them a hug? They’re trying, and that’s what matters, even if they don’t get exactly where they want in the end.
So to sum it up, your self worth is conditional, and you need to find ways to treat yourself well more unconditionally. The more you can do that, the more confident you’ll feel, regardless of what else is happening in life.
Best of luck with this. I have struggled with similar things and still do sometimes. It takes work to change your thinking, and it won’t be linear gains.
I don’t know anything about this stereotype but this guy is a vibe
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Art Share🎨@lemmy.world•I made another ram. This one exploring digital ink. By JRC.English
3·12 days agoI like this one a lot, but it’s not better or worse, I just like this kinda spooky look more
You can definitely mix bones. I’ve done it with chicken/pork/beef on different combos. I just save all my bones and make a batch when I have enough, so it varies.
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Games@lemmy.world•As it lays off developers and closes studios, Xbox gets into the movie businessEnglish
19·16 days agoI’m pretty sure they’re in liquidation mode right now. Everything at Microsoft is being sacrificed on the altar of AI
The pyramid is a very cool feature. Looks like there’s a land one too. The sea one is definitely more interesting looking though I must say
Beautiful! Where is this?
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PC Gaming@lemmy.ca•Advocacy Group Stop Killing Games Sounds Alarm On EU Kids Act: ‘This Is Such A Horrible Law Proposal’English
4·22 days agoEveryone account I’ve seen from that instance is wacky as hell too. I don’t know what the deal is with it
I have a feeling a lot of the truck owners are regretting their life choices right now with the gas situation. Hopefully that also influences their voting decisions…
Love this perspective and I feel a lot of the same
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PC Gaming@lemmy.ca•Discord’s Second Attempt To Roll Out Age Verification Is Going BadlyEnglish
33·26 days agoYou shouldn’t get hate for it. Most people aren’t that deep into the weeds of their given apps to worry about this stuff, and honestly, that’s probably healthy 😅
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Soulslike - Discussion, News, Memes@lemmy.zip•(Dark Souls Remastered) Noob trapped myself out of permanent upgrades, fixable with mod or otherwise?
2·26 days agoIt’s been fun so far! Aside from the pain, but I knew that going in 😂
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Soulslike - Discussion, News, Memes@lemmy.zip•(Dark Souls Remastered) Noob trapped myself out of permanent upgrades, fixable with mod or otherwise?
3·26 days agoOK nice, I’ll look into that. I only need to restore 2 of them so it should be easy to find trash for that. Thank you!
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Soulslike - Discussion, News, Memes@lemmy.zip•(Dark Souls Remastered) Noob trapped myself out of permanent upgrades, fixable with mod or otherwise?
4·26 days agoThat’s good to know. I used 2 of them, so maybe I’m not totally cooked?
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PC Gaming@lemmy.ca•There Is No Plan - id Software employee: "We keep thinking morale can't sink lower but the obvious incompetence of Xbox management somehow keeps driving it down worse."English
14·29 days agoI think you’re spot on, and the results are demonstrating how that doesn’t work at all.
Corporate so desperately wants art to be a science, and it’s falling flat on its face over and over in doing so.
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memes@lemmy.world•So an intelligent person falling in love with an idiot is idiot…right?
12·29 days agoDostoevsky self reporting a bit here









I mean… Why do you think they’re all brooding malcontents?