I just had a weird online encounter on Bluesky that made me start wondering what people are willing to accept when it comes to negative online social contact (comments, replies)? What sorts of things are red lines for you personally?

Previously, I would accept quite a bit and would only block/mute/report somebody if it was incredibly offensive, but I would still try to explain myself, argue my point, or defuse a situation or whatever, still honestly trying to engage and make my case. I would rarely block anybody because that seemed almost like cowardice, like I was running from a fight. Since joining Bluesky however, I will not hesitate to block people for the simplest of reasons. Oftentimes if they start parroting obvious right-wing propaganda, if it’s a bot, if they’re offensive, make it personal, or if they’re obviously trolling. As soon as a person starts calling names or makes accusations about the person themselves and strays away from the topic at hand, that’s kind of become my personal red line. If you don’t know me and you make it personal right away, we’re done.


To give some background, my conversation that prompted this was over books vs audiobooks (it’s been a subject for weeks on bluesky). I was responding to a librarian’s post saying that it’s a pointless debate, books are books, doesn’t matter if you read a book or listen to an audiobook. I replied, agreeing with her point, saying that the experience of taking in a story is what we’re doing, whether it’s a regular book with text, picture book, audiobook, movie, or whatever. One format or another may have trade-offs, but you’re still absorbing the story, it’s still a similar experience you’re getting. Not particularly controversial, just adding input, just whatever.

A reply came in from another person, somewhat combative from the start, not particularly long, but there was edge to it I could tell (“So what are you saying? Reading is reading, listening is listening” or something like that). I assumed they wanted more clarification (thus the ‘?’), so wrote back just kind of explaining how media formats are different, our brain takes in the information differently, but that one format or the other wasn’t better, just different. Again, not directed at the person, just discussing the idea.

They replied back with something fairly negative, really sounding like they wanted to start an argument and directing it personally at me as if I was the one being argumentative for replying to their question. Without hesitation I just blocked them. I was like, I’m not going to waste my time engaging with this person (though I apparently will waste my time posting about it on Lemmy). I’m not really afraid of getting feelings hurt or anything, call me whatever you want, but if it’s an obvious negative experience they’re trying to goad me into, I’m not going to engage, I’m just going to walk away.

It’s an interesting thing that’s happening on Bluesky, because that’s the overall behavior that seems to be encouraged on there that I haven’t really seen elsewhere, don’t engage with obviously negative people, it’s not worth it. Is that what we should be striving for, starving the trolls and trying to encourage polite, civil discourse?

  • Boozilla@lemmy.world
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    10 days ago

    Blocking doesn’t mean they “got to you”. It means you value your own time and energy and don’t want to see the same idiot’s vomit-thoughts over and over.

    • Theo@lemmy.world
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      10 days ago

      Yeah but they won’t see it that way. Besides it takes too much time to block each and everyone who trolls me. By leaving the comment as the last reply nine times out of ten they stop. If they harass my posts, I would block them. But fortunately I never intend to make any content that gets that popular where I have that. I am not against blocking them. I just couldn’t care less. Also, like when someone tries to troll my comment and the others just swarm them with holes in their arguments or picking at their grammar etc. it is entertaining and I have a folder of screenshots. Lol.

      Sometimes, I delete my own comment so theirs is also deleted. This happens mostly the times when I comment making a joke I thought was funny and someone trolls my joke trying to make it less funny.