• Asherah@lemmy.world
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    I think the issue is, when reveling in your sexuality, everyone involved must consent. It’s hard to say whether posting pics of you in revealing clothes is consent for old men to ogle or not. I’d say if you post it publicly, then it should be fine for said old men to respectfully ogle. But if said old men decide to comment something like, “would love to squirtle on those jigglypuffs” on the revealing image, we’re suddenly entering nonconsensual territory. So there’s a fine line and it’s easy to cross. Simply loving looking at boobs on the internet is fine; many women enjoy being admired. But if you take it any further, that’s when problems arise. Enjoy your sexuality responsibly, my friends. 💕

    Edit: it’s both extremely telling and extremely concerning how much my rational take on consent is triggering all these pathetic men.

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      If you don’t want people spreading your images, wanking to your images, making crude comment about your images, oogling your images, etc etc. And I don’t mean just nudes, I mean any picture you post…

      Then don’t post them online.

      because once they hit the internet, in any capacity, you’ve lost all control of them, forever. They will still be there to be discovered when you are lying in a nursing home at 104 years old, Your descendants so far removed that they dont even know your name will still be at risk of stumbling upon them. People on the other side of the planet might use it in advertising or virtual sex dolls without you ever knowing.

      You might not like it, you might not want it, you might not consent to it, but its still going to happen.

      And if you want it to not happen, don’t post things online. Because not posting is the only control you’ll ever be able to exert over them.

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        Whatever you say, really don’t care. I don’t need some rando to tell me shit I already know.

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          “I don’t care what some rando has to say, now let me go back to posting on the site full of randos talking to eachother. BUT THEY BETTER NOT REPLY TO ME!”

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            Sorry, I should have said I don’t care to be mansplained about basic shit about how posting things on the internet works. You guys are really fucking obnoxious, it’s telling how badly my comment about consent set you all off.

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              I’ve literally been sexually assaulted and you set me off too. Maybe you’re just a fucking dumbass

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                Well, as someone who’s been through it, I’d really hope you of all people would understand the fucking importance of consent.

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                  I’d also really think somebody that cares about people wouldn’t throw somebody’s trauma in their face, fwiw

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                  I also understand consequences for actions. If it was a private insta page, that’s one thing, and I don’t necessarily support these men’s actions nor would I take them myself, insofar as the thirsty comments, but if I posted a picture of myself that was purposefully sexy publicly, those are the comments I have to be prepared to get. I really don’t think your argument holds weight, as the consent is done when they post the image publicly to a place with public comments. That was the choice they made. I think that if somebody’s pictures are leaked or something, that’s totally different, but just insofar as public forums… yeah no

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                    So does a woman walking in public wearing revealing clothes deserve to be catcalled? Because that’s basically what you’re arguing. It’s literally victim blaming, why can’t men simply be respectful? Why are women made to police themselves?