I mean ideally yes. But if you grew up in the sort of env where you were mocked for being a ‘sucker’ if something like this happened, you tend to live a sort of paranoid mental state where you can’t fully connect with anyone. No matter how much you say to yourself that it’s not

Our society idolises the strong, no matter how evil they are and shames the weak, so the victim is often blamed for what others do to them.

Definitely not me then