So from one male dude to every non-male dude, get in on these fun linguistics! Dude is gender neutral if you say it is.
I get what you’re trying to say, but you gotta realize that for people who do not want to be called “dude” because it does have certain gendered connotations, this doesn’t come across well.
You’re basically saying “I’ve already decided this term is gender neutral, and the only path forward is for you to get on board and accept my conclusion. I don’t see any reason to adjust my language and if you don’t want to be called dude that’s your problem.”
You can just not refer to people with terms they don’t want to be referred as, it’s pretty simple. You’re free to talk to people however you want, but ignoring or arguing with people’s requests for how to address them will only ever serve to alienate and isolate you from them.
No worries, I also assumed the worst and that’s my bad. I’m just too used to seeing people whose default response to being challenged on their use of “dude” or “man” is to dig their heels in and argue about it.
I definitely don’t support saying something like “that’s a dude” when referring to a woman and won’t argue that it’s never offensive. I just think it’s a fun word non-males shouldn’t be denied.
I mean, if someone decides to start speaking my dialect and then telling me that even though I’ve been speaking it all my life and they only took a college community extension course in gender studies not even in linguistics, the definitions I use are incorrect and the definition they use is correct. Why would I deign to listen to them?
I get what you’re trying to say, but you gotta realize that for people who do not want to be called “dude” because it does have certain gendered connotations, this doesn’t come across well.
You’re basically saying “I’ve already decided this term is gender neutral, and the only path forward is for you to get on board and accept my conclusion. I don’t see any reason to adjust my language and if you don’t want to be called dude that’s your problem.”
You can just not refer to people with terms they don’t want to be referred as, it’s pretty simple. You’re free to talk to people however you want, but ignoring or arguing with people’s requests for how to address them will only ever serve to alienate and isolate you from them.
I felt I was pretty careful in my wording but I guess not.
I don’t go around referring to everyone as dude, I said I promote the idea that dude is gender neutral to everyone because it’s a fun word.
No worries, I also assumed the worst and that’s my bad. I’m just too used to seeing people whose default response to being challenged on their use of “dude” or “man” is to dig their heels in and argue about it.
I definitely don’t support saying something like “that’s a dude” when referring to a woman and won’t argue that it’s never offensive. I just think it’s a fun word non-males shouldn’t be denied.
I mean, if someone decides to start speaking my dialect and then telling me that even though I’ve been speaking it all my life and they only took a college community extension course in gender studies not even in linguistics, the definitions I use are incorrect and the definition they use is correct. Why would I deign to listen to them?