A few weeks after my 16th birthday, I made a new friend at my new school, Steve. Within months we’d become best friends and basically inseparable. Just platonic friends but we did everything together, went to music festivals, had our first foreign holiday together, took drugs together, shared our favourite books, had discussions long into the night, shared our secrets and problems that we’d never tell anyone else. Went through all kinds of difficulties and hardships and loss side by side. He was my best friend for nearly a decade, and at age 25 we finally lost touch. He moved to another city and my health took a turn for the worse. One day it was just the last time we saw each other and now it’s been 17 years.
Those 17 years haven’t been good for me, with my worsening health, having to give up work and socialising, and just losing all hope of ever having anything worthwhile. But I often thought of Steve and everything we’d shared.
Today i was googling people I’d known and I found a social media page for Steve. He’s now married with two kids. It seems crazy to me that this whole time I’ve been sitting here rotting alone he’s been living his best life. He and his wife and kids all look so happy in their pictures. All the photos are of them happily goofing around together with all their friends and family, going on holidays and living life. And I am happy for him, he was always a great friend and decent person who deserves to be happy but it just highlighted to me how empty and pointless my life is. 17 years have passed and what has changed for me? Just everything getting worse.
It’s also crazy to me that after such a long and close friendship i didn’t even know he was married, much less being invited to the wedding. So strange how you can be such close friends with someone for so long and not even be at their wedding. I was not well enough to go anyway but the not even being invited does hurt.
I don’t really know what I hope to achieve with this rant other than I have literally no-one else to talk to, and it’s hard and embarrassing living such a pathetic life when everyone I’ve ever known turned out to be “normal” while I’m now a weird loner shut in who can’t even eat without begging for handouts, who never goes anywhere other than hospital appointments and hasn’t spoken to anyone face to face other than hospital staff, benefit assessors and shop assistants for 17 years.
EDIT: I’m still creepily stalking Steve’s social media and I can’t believe this. He now works as a work coach for the DWP - one of those people who makes benefits claimants lives a misery by slave-driving them into unsuitable employment and sanctioning them (stopping their benefits) as punishment. I never thought he’d do a job like this, he used to be a real man of the people, now he’s on the opposing side. He always used to want to be an engineer. I wonder what happened.
i mean, those things are not your fault…most people who know each other in highschool and those years usually don’t talk again after leaving school…being sick is not your fault either
sometimes i feel relatively similar when compared to some of my relatives and their lives…i’m still single too. but in your case, you’re under hardships that don’t seem your fault (i mean, you don’t want to suffer whatever condition you have)
maybe you should take another pastime and not just reading theory and just keep hating capitalism like the rest of us, drawing, music, there should be stuff for you to do
i was guessing that he got married in these 17 years you were separated from him…how could he be able to invite you?
the human being needs to vent somehow or face the punishment from his own mind and sanity
maybe this will make you feel better?
https://inv.nadeko.net/embed/G6uEZFrG7vA?
He could easily invite me. He knew my address. As far as hobbies i do want to learn to draw but my brain fog from my cancer treatment is so bad I just can’t concentrate. And I love hiking but I’m permanently crippled after having a stroke. Everything else costs money, I can’t even afford to do simple things. I’m a huge fan of the Outlander series and the new season starts on Sunday, can’t even afford an amazon subscription to the channel.
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I don’t just “let” myself rot and it’s very annoying when people say things like that. You clearly have no idea what it’s like dealing with cancer, its treatment and the after effects of a stroke, all at once while being dosed up to the eyeballs on many medications with a lot of side effects, and spending whole days and nights at a time at the hospital. It’s also a full time job dealing with my benefit appeal, attending and organising hospital appointments, accessing medication and food, trying to arrange hospital transport, trying to raise enough mutual aid to stay fed etc. And all this while exhausted and sick. This is not letting myself rot, this is me doing the best I can and having no energy left for anything extra.
i didn’t meant to offend you, i was just trying to encourage you a little
your whole comment was rude tbh you need to give an actual apology, even when trying to give advice with the piracy you were snarky for no reason
ok, i apologize, i didn’t mean to offend you, i don’ t know what else to tell you, so i won’t say anything else