Large enthusiastic texts as in large texts about topics, you have common with the other person and enthusiastic about.

I am a person who prefers texts over calls. Maybe that might be the reason, the people I have in my circles are more into calls than texts.

But this happened with my online friends as well whose only mode of communication is via texts.

I used to have a friend who would do so but with the topics only he was interested in lol but I used to kinda act like I’m listening to him by asking small questions . He did try to complement my listening skills once. We used to chat for hours together. Sadly life moved on and he branched away from my friend circle (which is kinda non-existent rn because life ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯).

Or am I just too boring or loud? Is this a bad habit? Sometimes I can’t stop making walls of texts. (Oops here I go again)

Side note: Subscribe to c!doesanybodyelse@lemmy.world and help it grow. I wanted to make a post there but it was really dead. (It doesn’t have to be a lemmy.world instance.)

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    3 hours ago

    I used to, but people didn’t engage, so I stopped. Learned a few years ago to notice when someone doesn’t care (which is most of the time) and only engage when someone broached the topic.

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    7 hours ago

    Hard to say without knowing the conversations or what the recipients are like.

    Personally, I try to keep texts to quick messages, as I’m not one for text conversations. If someone started throwing blocks of text at me, expecting me to keep up the conversation, I’d just call them. If they didn’t want to talk, then it probably wouldn’t be long before I just stopped reading the texts.

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    4 hours ago

    So much text in one message comes across as monologuing. It makes sense that someone would only be interested if it involves something they’re very interested in or passionate about.

    The same amount of information broken up across several messages usually comes off better and invites a conversation. Especially if you wait for a response before going on with your subject.

    Edit, also be open to the conversation moving away from the subject you wanted to go on about. Constantly moving the conversation back to your topic so you can finish your thought doesn’t work out well

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    10 hours ago

    I am a person who prefers texts over calls.

    Are you talking about sending long texts on a phone?

    If that is so, even though I don’t know if you’re boring or not, I can assure that I would not read it. I never read/reply to a large text I receive on my phone (ok, maybe I would read it if it was from my spouse, but she can reach me much more efficiently using other means).

    I find the screen of any phone way too cramped, and the font way too small, for any kind of long form reading. Plus, the text layout will be shitty at best.

    Imvho, typing long texts on a tiny virtual keyboard is like trying to do brain surgery wearing mittens while riding a roller coaster. And reading it would be something like eating soup with a fork ;)

    Obviously, that’s just my personal opinion, anyone is more than welcome to disagree, but this may help explain, partly at least, the lack of reaction to your long texts? I mean, people simply do not bother reading wall of texts and/or they don’t feel like writing their own wall of text on such a poorly adapted keyboard/screen combo?

    As an experiment, you could try writing much shorter prose and see if you get more reactions from sending those?

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      Hard agree. There’s also the time component to it. If I’m on my phone I don’t want to have to spend much time reading, thinking, and the replying via text. I may hop onto my laptop to reply, but time is precious with younger kids which is why I first looked at the message on my phone…

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    11 hours ago

    I usually keep my texts short and with lots of spelling errors. And I almost always send them with a monotone in my head.

    On the flip side I usually think reading texts should be a short task. Unless you’re arriving arguing with someone I guess, but that should really be done in person.

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    11 hours ago

    Some people like it, some don’t. People think I’m weird that I text someone before calling, because I don’t want to call at a bad time.

    Also, if you post to a community that is pretty quiet, once you do, it’s no longer quiet ;)

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    10 hours ago

    I will be verbose if there is an actual keyboard under my fingers but unless I’m extremely invested in the topic and not also doing something else at that time I keep messages from my phone terse.

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    10 hours ago

    I have the same problem. I usually end up editing out a bunch of text, yet still end up with a wall of text. I’m sure there’s a balance in there somewhere between enough information and too much information. I also try to remove unnecessary words and phrases to be more concise. If you figure it out, let the rest of us know. 😊