Let’s say you’re hanging out in a swimsuit, you’ve been in and out of the water, a plausible time to get a “veggie”. If you get one, is it immediately noticeable to you? Or do you have to occasionally check so you’re not like “oh god how long have I been walking around like this”?
Most often I’m not aware of it, until some spotty teenage boy doesn’t stop staring, or some ugly older guy smiles at me “knowingly”.
Ok that’s actually helpful to know, thanks. If a friend notices, would you appreciate them discretely letting you know? Or would you prefer if they just didn’t mention it at all?
Common rule of life, if someone could fix something within five seconds, let them know.
“Hey a part of your shirt is tucked in” “Hey you have something in your teeth” “Hey I see your impressive labia”
As the only boy with a ton of sisters and did drama class in HS I was cool with girls.
More than once I’ve whispered “nipcheck” and gotten a simple thank you.
Lesson learned then I guess. I had a friend who had an unmissable cameltoe right in my face (she was standing and I was sitting) and I didn’t say anything as to not be weird - but maybe I should have.
I had established myself as cool with the girls over time. Saying it out of the blue you gotta be chill and not awkward about it.
I guess I’d whisper “front wedgie” casually then turn away and completely ignore her. Don’t make it a big deal or seem embarrassed. That’ll just embarrass her too or give off a bad vibe.
I think it’s less what you say and how you say it. As well as your relationship with that person. Someone who’s a complete stranger might react badly.
I’d love a female opinion on this. ^
I had a friend wearing a red thong and she had massive whale tail going on. I whispered “red” to her and she didn’t get it. “Red?”
“Yeah red.” Then I did a quick glace back flicking my eyes only and she hopped up and pulled her shirt down to cover up like a cartoon. No one had any idea what that was about except me. I just asked if she was okay and didn’t laugh at her. We ended up getting close after that. Good times.