

First of all you may be right or wrong about the reason. But you can’t really change looking young (other than by sitting around and waiting, which is not very fun). So you’ll get a lot of mileage by coming to terms with what you look like. For your own peace of mind if nothing else.
You can artificially change your looks to a limited degree with makeup. I’m no expert.
Are you putting yourself into positions where it’s socially acceptable and/or easy for men to approach you? Are you looking like you want to be approached? Headphones on while reading in the library makes me think you’ll want me dead if I say hi. Near me at the table at a social gathering it’s rude of me not to introduce myself and attempt some small talk (as long as you’re not talking to your friends already).


First I’d check what could get you in legal trouble. You may have insider information since you were selected for implementing it.
Second step is finding someone that is non technical that is not afraid tell you they don’t understand. In my life that would be my mum, maybe my old English teacher. Then explain to them the situation that you want to explain why it’s a bad idea to a non technical and need their help.