They’re not the same.

Hiding an unlocked treasure chest in the forest is obscurity. Sure, you might be the only one who knows it’s there at first but eventually someone might come across it.

Having a vault at a bank branch is security - everyone knows there’s a vault there, but you’ll be damned if you’re going to get into it when you’re not authorized.

Good passwords, when implemented correctly, use hashing (one way encryption) to provide security. It’s not obscured, people know you need a password to access the thing (in our example)

Oh.

Ok then yeah, just tell them you don’t make stuff for other people?

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If you can yourself a hobbyist then you likely struggle with communicating the true value of your time for your craft.

People are asking you to make things because they value the product they see that you can make, but it doesn’t sound like you’ve internalized the same measure of value of your work.

All that to say, my advice is that when people give you a request, communicate your response in the following general framework:

-first things first, I’m really backed up and don’t really have time for new commissions HOWEVER

-if you’re willing to wait at least ___________ time then I might be able to fit you in BUT

-I need you to understand that your project will likely be much more expensive than you imagine it to be because it’s custom, and the amount of time that will go into making a custom design that meets my quality standards will be very high.

-i generally commission a piece with an estimated rate of _______ (price per hour - DON’T undersell yourself here. An entire new conversation could go into pricing the value of your time, but that’s a tangent we won’t go into here) and just as a VERY rough estimate I can already guess that your idea would take _______ hours in design time alone, not even considering materials or the time it would take me to create the piece.

-if you’re ok with all that, then maybe we can work together. Why don’t you reach out in _______ amount of weeks/months and we’ll reengage? (Kick the can down the road)

-in the meantime, if you really want your piece before then, I recommend you check out ________ (recommend some good online retailers)

Any of these blanks can be adjusted. If it’s someone you really don’t want to work with, inflate all the timelines. If it’s someone you are close to, give them the lower hourly rate because they’re friends and family or whatever.

But it’s professional, structured, flexible, and sets realistic expectations. Most people will get waved away simply by the price, as you know already.

But most people won’t start out realizing how much time and effort goes into what they’re asking for so you really need to help communicate that so they have a better understanding that a custom knife sheath or whatever isn’t something you can just whip up in an afternoon for the price of a couple pizzas.

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Who cares

This comment chain has me chuckling.

2.2 pounds is a kilo btw so a 12 lb cat isn’t like, GIANT, but it’s pretty dang big.

There’s plenty if you want to go get it from the sun

Bruh you’re in mildly infuriating, you lost?

The expensive part is the outrageous costs of R+D that goes into drug discovery and trials, with the majority ending in failure. Not excusing the awful profiteering that goes into pharmaceuticals also, but the end product being cheap to produce isn’t the only cost that companies incur.

They are yes, as opposed to subjectively on varying levels of personal familiarity. You’d care far more about your spouse or mother dying than a random person in a different country you had no idea existed.

That doesn’t mean that a random person’s life has more intrinsic value than your mother’s, but TO YOU they will have less. Hence, lives are equal in a philosophical sense but pragmatically that’s not how the world works, ever, or we’d be in a constant state of unending grief at the loss of our fellow humans 24/7.

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Yeah this whole comment chain is nonsense and I’m honestly flabbergasted that there’s so many up votes on such a terrible take.

I mean, philosophically all lives are equal.

But you value people you love, your family (I assume) more than your neighbors. And you care about what happens in your town more than in another city in your country, and you care more about your country than others…

USA had a pretty bad plane crash a couple months ago in Louisville; about a dozen people died. I care, it was a tragedy, but I guarantee you that the people in Louisville care a lot more than I do.

And it’s the same reason a nation will care more about its citizens vs the citizens of other nations. Kind of obtuse to pretend that’s not how people work, no?

I think it’s maybe changing, but pre 2000s it was not like that at all, and it’s still really not common in those demographics from my experience.

If there was a single exercise myth I wished I could wipe off the earth it’s the “women shouldn’t lift heavy weights because then they’ll get all muscly, so they should use low weight to ‘tone’ muscles”

MF do you think it’s EASY to ACCIDENTALLY get ripped at the gym? If men struggle to gain muscle mass without a ton of drugs do you think a woman will just “accidentally” get ripped AF doing some bicep curls with a 15 instead of a 5??

I see so many women who have certain strength or body shape goals but actively avoid the exercises in the gym that will get them there faster because of this nonsense.

I liked reading your story, and I believe it. I’ve had PT earlier in life that literally started me with soup cans so I know this is a thing, it was in the literature my doctors were using to prescribe my home exercises.

That aside, I wanted to concur with your underlying point that you don’t need a gym membership to do basic resistance training, especially not where we’re talking about the goal is old ladies trying to keep the body moving.

Is it nice to have some dumbbells, a bench, a squat rack? Sure, but you can use anything. Basic exercise is free, minus the cost of shoes (for most cardio).

I’ve never heard or seen any of that. Can you provide sources?

We did it team, the stats are higher because men do risky things, especially drugs.

To be fair though, cancer as a whole gets a lot of study dollars but it’s incredibly complicated and every form of cancer varies wildly in how it affects the body, how best to treat it, how to screen for it, who are at risk, etc.

The comment you replied to was referring to a single variant that affects only men (incorrectly associating it with Steve jobs, but regardless), not the entirety of cancer writ large.

Studying bone cancer, skin cancer, and studying prostate cancer etc for example are wholly separate things and shouldn’t really be put under the same bucket in this context.