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  • Perhaps. But you realize it now, and you also have the opportunity to take things in a different direction if you want.

    Communication is important. Admitting when you did something that you think is wrong is good, we all make mistakes. Tell her that you’re sorry and why, and let it be. Either she will forgive you and you guys can move forward if it works, or she won’t want anything to do with you, and both are fine. Emotions are complicated.




  • So I will preface my comment with the fact that I hate Internet ads and do everything within my power to block and/or avoid them. Aside from being annoying they’re a blatant security and malware risk, and I avoid them for that reason alone.

    That being said, hosting websites gets pretty expensive pretty fast when lots of people come to your site, especially with the advent of much higher bandwidth media that goes along with better quality images and video.

    In my opinion the fact that the majority of people just have an expectation that everything online should be free is THE problem. I was there when the Internet was free and open and without ads. That was the culture, and the root of the issue we have today is that that culture is the foundation of the general expectation that it should continue to be so.

    But that’s not sustainable with the costs involved in hosting today. Shit costs money yo, why should other people bear that so you can search for recipes for free without it being annoying for you?

    The fact that nobody is willing to pay for content via subscriptions or paid apps is literally why the ad-based model is the overwhelming majority of the Internet, and apps, and why data collection/sales is so rampant.

    Web development and running a webpage is not easy. Even for those that are skilled enough that it’s easy for them, it takes a ton of time. Usually multiple people’s time for any site with enough visitors to make it a good site. App development is hard and takes a skill set that requires a lot of training or time investment to learn. Why should all that go for free for you?

    Until people are willing to pay for content they find valuable the Internet will be a hell hole ridden with ads. YouTube ads are awful, but do you have any idea how much it costs to run YouTube? You think someone should just absorb that out of the goodness of their hearts? Ridiculous.

    The goal of the Internet is still to share information and communicate, but all the hardware and bandwidth and time costs real dollars, and the only way for most sites to recoup that is via ads because people just won’t pay anything if given an option, they’ll just go to another site that has free content, because there’s SO MUCH stuff that you can generally find what you want, for free with ads, somewhere else.

    There’s only two possible solutions that I see:

    1. everyone starts being willing to pay for content they find valuable. I don’t see this happening. There’s too many people that share your opinion without taking into account what it costs to actually run a modern website.

    2. some complicated type of system that directly pays websites for use, based off of usage from people. I think this is almost too complicated to implement that it’s likely impossible with today’s Internet. If we want to also maintain privacy/anonymity when surfing I can’t see how this can ever work - so unless we have some future system where people are uniquely identifiable on the Internet, and then some additional system that somehow “fairly” compensates websites for traffic from users, this won’t happen. It would need to involve ISPs, their customers, and web site owners in some coordinated payment system to work.

    Not to sound too preachy but to me your comment comes off as super entitled.

    I pay for apps that I think are valuable, even ones with no cost like Signal. Because I value what they provide. I subscribe to sites that I find valuable enough to do so when it’s an option. I abhor data collection and ads and I fight them without prejudice. But even I don’t think I pay enough directly to offset how much I cost providers, I’m sure I don’t, but that’s mostly laziness because it’s a pain to pay every site directly so I donate to the ones I really appreciate and use heavily. If I could pay my ISP for my link and then have a direct credit system that throws dollars and cents directly into website coffers as I use them, that would be great - but I don’t want to give up my privacy either, so… Yeah.

    Long story short, ad-based content is going nowhere until there’s a fundamental shift in either people or how the Internet operates.


  • I left home 15 years ago for work. In that time I’ve traveled to dozens of countries and lived in several places in the USA, but no place has the diverse, welcoming people as home, and the natural beauty on display.

    This week, work took me home. I’ve gotten to work with organizations that I was a part of as a child, eat at restaurants that I loved and worked at, and visit old haunts. Today I drove by the house I grew up in and parked outside to take a selfie to send my mom, and a lady stepped out, and I (awkwardly) approached her and had a lovely conversation about the house. They’ve fixed it up so nicely, and we laughed about how weird it was (originally built as a single story partially underground, and then had a second story built on top and turned into a duplex, and then once again lived in as a single family home).

    I’m home. And I can’t wait to come back when I quit this job, and bring my family here and move back into the same neighborhood I grew up in, and live in joy until I die.





  • A few ways

    Easiest is to find a class in your area for beginners - colleges and hospitals are the best place to start (hospitals not because they teach them but because they generally know from referring newly deaf patients, or family members of newly deaf patients).

    You really only get so much from a class though - some cultural introduction, basic vocabulary/structure, facial movements. If you actually want to really learn you need to get into the local deaf community, which depending on where you live will be huge or small.

    The other way to learn is harder, but still doable. Seek out the local deaf community and go hang out at meetups (Pizza and bowling are common everywhere). Immerse yourself and self teach using online resources. Deaf people LOVE when hearing folks try to communicate so they’ll do anything they can to help you out generally.

    They’re so, so isolated in normal society. Any person that demonstrates interest in communicating will be welcomed with open arms. You’ll probably run into translators and families of deaf folks that hear and speak English just fine as well.

    Keep in mind that many people who are deaf from birth do not know English very well, if at all. Trying to write back and forth in English will have mixed results, but until you’re faster at finger spelling that is a good crutch, but try to shake it as fast as you can. When you first go to hang out with deaf folks bring a small whiteboard or notepad if you can’t finger spell.



  • That same target audience would be the least equipped to install a new drive or handle any problems that do come up. How many John Q public people have even opened up their laptop to dust it out?

    Problems might be rare, but if I am selling a product (in this case new storage with Linux on it) I need to be able to charge enough to cover all my overhead. Every time I sell it and it doesn’t work out of the box that’s time spent helping the customer, more shipping/return costs, or both. Markup has to cover all that, and I’d guess that it’s not viable as a business model to charge a high enough price to deal with all the random static from computer illiterate people.

    I get what you’re saying but I just don’t see it being a viable business strategy to sell this product to that target audience.

    Anyone who knows enough to seek out and purchase a Linux OS drive can just download and install it themselves.




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    Are you trying to describe monogamous societies or polygamous ones?

    OP is asking why Western societies frown on polygamy, but you respond by talking about the strategic value of having more readily available cannon fodder - I assume in polygamous cultures, because that’s the only thing that makes sense. A monogamous society, assuming relatively equal M/F birth rates, would have LESS available available military men, by your own description.

    I’m not sure how that answers OPs question unless you’re saying that Western societies frown on polygamy because it was SEEN as just a tactic to raise armies?


  • I don’t know. Personally I don’t need a “place” to go visit someone that is deceased, but I have very close family that needs that place in order to grieve. Pets or human family, they need to be buried and have a marker.

    When I lived in a more urban environment the only way to achieve that was through graveyards/pet cemeteries. With some land and the option I’d rather bury people at home now, but lots of people don’t have that luxury, but still have the need to “visit” deceased loved ones, and know where they “are.”

    I’m not one of those people, sounds like you aren’t either, but that doesn’t mean that a graveyard doesn’t serve a useful purpose for the majority of people.

    Could they be more efficient? Sure, maybe. But honestly do they really take up THAT much space?

    Definitely fits the unpopular opinion tag, but I think you’ve got some blinders on your empathy if you don’t see their value.






  • Mmmmmmm me likey.

    GIVE ME BACK ASHERON’S CALL!!

    Patron/vassal pyramid scheme experience gain system that incentivized helping out less experienced players because you got a % of their XP (at no loss to them) and their vassals, etc etc…

    Back in the day when you didn’t have an online guide for everything. World was HUGE and there was no real fast travel, but there was a crazy portal network. Random portals in the middle of nowhere that would dump you out at other random parts of the map. Portals exiting dungeons randomly take you somewhere else. I had a spiral ring notebook of portal coords and sometimes to get somewhere it was 7-8 hops through a few dungeons… Or hours running across the map trying to not get janked by high level mobs or other PVP players.

    That era of MMO will never live again, and it’s a damn shame.