I mean, what was the post? Some things that are posted are offensive whether or not you intended that and it’s not unreasonable for someone to comment on that.

If it’s happening to someone so often they need to physically move to a different platform, maybe they should pay more attention to what their saying and the audience you say it to.

Like if I’m with friends and someone makes a dead baby joke, I’d probably laugh, if someone recently had a miscarriage the reaction to that joke will be very different.

I wouldn’t expect a lot of 4chan jokes to fly in normal society and if you can’t engage with normal society without making 4chan appropriate jokes, maybe you need to work on your conversational skills.

I’m not actually that surprised a vote by a bunch of politicians was decided based on politics and not which candidate was a better fit.

I would say, if you feel that strongly about her, instead of just hoping you guys will develop a romantic relationship through texting, just grow a backbone and ask her out (maybe after exams when she has less going on).

Then either she says yes and you can go from there, or she says no and you rip off the bandaid. Maybe complain about it to a friend for a bit, then get on with your life.

I’m personally of the opinion that if a community is poorly moderated, you should just make a new community that is better aligned to the level of moderation users actually want and not to rely on a centralized admin team. They should really just be preventing serious abuse, like grooming, and provide support and advice to mods.

Ultimately its not sustainable and gives Admins too much centralized power to determine to that level what is and isn’t appropriate mod behavior. I get that what you experienced is generally dickish behavior, but that can easily spin out of control when it relies on admin judgement calls like that.

People like to virtue signal about things they don’t know anything about.