eupraxia

Sure, but that’s still not necessarily sex?

One can also wear fun undergarments to a date and then decide not to undress or have sex - usually I think of it as “in case something happens” rather than expecting it from the outset. If nobody sees it, it’s not a disappointment, it’s just fun regardless.

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Give it 5 years, we’ll get there

meanwhile gothic/outlaw country is out here like “I’m going to kill a cop and then go fishing but then catch Satan himself and then everyone dies”

don’t worry I got lost for you :)

it’s a common and frustrating trope for sure.

Today is Sunday, March 2093rd, 2020.

what I’ve learned is that your average confident-looking gym rat can also still have no idea what they’re doing with the equipment. Pretty much everyone needs someone to show em the ropes and get em started at least.

You’re not wrong, “I arrived” is the better translation, “I came” is just (to my knowledge) the more common one people recite in the context of “veni vidi vici” and what this joke was playing off of.

“I came, I saw, I came”

it’s great, instead of ?: bullshit we just use if/else like it always should have been:

let x = if y > 3 { 7 } else { 4 };

This is definitely part of it, parking is pretty hard to find in a lot of downtown. Depending on where you are, traffic can be really bad too, especially over some of the bridges. It’s a very hilly, coastal city limited by its geography in some ways. this video’s a cool explainer on it. The city only has flat land because it burnt down, was regraded, and built back up on top of the old city.

Seattle also just has a pretty good public light rail and bus system. It’s not perfect, but in places where coverage is good it’s great. The city should be leaning into it more, but it’s also very possible to move here and get by without a car. I also suspect (just from my own observation) more people move to Seattle who don’t own a car in the first place.

Prick a liberal and a fascist bleeds. Prick a fascist and a liberal denounces violence.

Will no one rid me of this turbulent priest?

This, 100%. For some reason people imagine vegans as an ideologically aligned group rather than a bunch of people making their own varied decisions for their own varied reasons. Then when inconsistencies come up between vegans they’ll decry it all as performative. Meanwhile, vegans themselves tend to just be happy to see others making their own best effort and the hair-splitting over what is vegan matters a lot less than generally resisting animal product consumption in any capacity.

Setting a unifying standard for a broad group of people that they’ll never meet and then reacting to the shock of them failing to meet that standard is a common rhetorical tactic in other contexts, no surprises it turns up here too.

This tracks for how a lot of people use the app, but depending on where you are you can also have some fairly normal (for a dating site) conversations with people as well. I spent a couple months on Grindr despite not being interested in hookups, since it’s a decent way to meet other trans folk in my area. My inbox was mostly dick pics but I also met some amazing people I’m still with several years later!

Makes complete sense! Just like any other matter of identity, having to mask the true self(ves) in order to fit what the outside world expects is… draining and pointless. Not having to put up the front means so much more mental energy for everything else.

Appreciate your perspective in this thread, cheers!

I’ve known a few plural folks that seem to get on just fine. In all their cases it arose from trauma and was pretty disharmonious and confusing to begin with, but with time and awareness their alters work better together and by the time I met em I wouldn’t have known if they didn’t tell me. I don’t know if they’d say it never affects them negatively but they certainly didn’t need to be freed of it. If anything, plural identity seemed to be more of a solution than an active problem for them.

forreal, people have such low opinion of what kids can understand (because they think kids have all their own same biases automatically)

My partner teaches preschool, sometimes the kids ask her if she’s a boy. She says she used to be but she’s a girl now, the kids say “ohhh” and immediately move on. It only ever gets weird and confusing for the kids when the parents feel the need to argue that point.

I could see it, yeah. I like Lemmy for a lot of reasons but it’s still social media. Commenting here isn’t activism and it doesn’t represent the irl dynamics of leftist circles. Engagement via comments and votes are the only things shown here, there’s no way to track the number of people that see a comment and think “you’re maybe not wrong, but you’re definitely splitting hairs…” and then move on. IRL, though, the dead air in the room would be deafening. (and could be a learning experience!)

My impression is this is primarily an issue in online spaces, without a clear goal in communication. When you meet leftists involved in a specific project, bigger-picture disagreements tend to fade away into focus and concern around a shared goal. It’s a lot easier to stay focused on the things that are immediately relevant when the route to making a real impact is right in front of you.