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Cake day: September 2nd, 2023
  • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyztoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•I'm a straight guy who wants to be cute, not handsome. Can I still be attractive despite choosing to be unmanly?
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    3 days ago

    Not being traditionally masculine does not make you less of a man.

    The man who moved me most in life was a sensitive, artistic, nervous, sweetheart of a man, whom I doted on, had him sit on my lap while he cried, cuddled and kissed him until he felt better, called him sugary names (lamb, darling, sweetheart), pet him often, and just absolutely loved on him.

    Men often get upset if you refer to them as “cute”, and I was unable to feel any of them put me on equal footing before him. The fact that he was emotionally open and outright with his feelings was what had attracted me to him in the first place. I am absolutely not a “dominant” person, but my desire to protect and love him in this was something no other man even allowed me the opportunity to do.

    I recall saying that something was “cute” while we were out, and he quietly asked “am I cute?”. The answer was, of course, “Yes, darling! Of course you are!” If he wanted me to, I would have moved all the stars in the sky for that man.

    Men (often secretly) desire to be desired, and it is weirdly seen as a more feminine urge. However, men who identify as masc can still desire the sensitivity of desire. Nothing feminine about it.

    There are women out there who will desire what you have to offer. It may be a search to find them, but they are out there.

  • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyztoLGBTQ+@beehaw.org•Aromanticism: What does it mean to be aromantic?
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    23 days ago

    Idk if I’m aro, but I’m definitely ace.

    I do have a desire for a partner, but more as a person I can be around and enjoy their company.

    It definitely does not attract people, and most are highly skeeved out at the idea of a relationship without s×x, some people being like “then why be in a relationship??” Uhh… because love can be shown in other ways? Making you delicious meals, participating in/supporting your hobbies, building you up, encouraging you, cuddling, enjoying each others company, giving you gifts! It goes on & on.

  • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyztoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Do Americans not understand what has happened?
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    26 days ago

    I didn’t do this. I voted for the less evil of the parties, I advocate for the handicapped and disabled, I support LGBTQ+ rights, I give resources to those who can’t afford healthcare or houses. I did what I fucking could.

    This is like blaming the individual for pollution. Who’s contributing the most to pollution?

    It sucks. It sucks so fucking hard. But we need to keep going and not cease our efforts in the face of despair.

    I’m doing what I can. That’s what I can do, and that’s what I will do.

  • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyztoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Olds of lemmy, why does the party who wants everyone to have as many children as possible hate their own children?
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    1 month ago

    A lot of the social expectations of the time pressured young people to marry and have children as soon as they were out of school. You didn’t even have to like your partner– as long as you adhere to what is expected of you, otherwise you’ll bring shame onto your family. Being “othered” by your community could lead to losing jobs/promotions, social ostracization, bullying, etc.

    So you do what is expected of you, even if it’s not what you want. You have regrets about the life you could have had. You get bitter. You get angry. You lash out at your wife and children, blaming them for why you couldn’t do something else, be somewhere else, or live the life you truly wanted without all of these “expectations”: work a job where you are miserable to make money to buy a home and support your new family, give up your hobbies, your friends, your time, even your identity… for what? To live a life you really didn’t even want?

    Now you expect your children to do the same. Go through the same thing. Because it’s “tradition”. It’s just what you do! An artist?? You can’t support a family on that!! Why don’t you get a better job?? Why are you wasting your life by not making enough money?? You expect to raise a family on this salary?? You don’t want a family?? What are you, gay??? What will the neighbors think???

    WHY ARE YOU NOT SACRIFICING YOUR FUTURE TO UPHOLD “THE NORM” LIKE I DID??? DO YOU THINK THAT YOU’RE BETTER THAN ME??? I WORKED MY ASS OFF TO KEEP A GOOD NAME AND LOOK NORMAL AND YOU WANT TO RUIN IT ALL??? MAKE LIKE ALL MY HARD WORK AND SACRIFICE WAS FOR NOTHING???

    …

    Some of them just can’t be happy unless you do what was expected of them, as well. Doesn’t matter how much things have changed. You need to sacrifice yourself in order to achieve. If you don’t… you’re “lazy”, “selfish”, and all that.

    They’re angry because you get to make choices, while they were pressured into their life– a life they never wanted/weren’t prepared for.

  • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyztoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What's your go-to long form Youtuber?
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    1 month ago

    “Oki’s Weird Stories” is so very good.

    Also “Shaun” and very much “Shanspeare” are great, if you’re looking for long-form content.

    I keep thinking of more, so I’m just going to list them here:

    AustinMcConnell, BobbyBroccoli, Dime Store Adventures, Fredrick Knudsen, Jenny Nicholson (already mentioned here many times!), Ahoy, Kid Leaves Stoop, Lady Emily, Sarah Z, Moon Channel, Paper Will, Soup Emporium.