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Cake day: March 30th, 2024

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  • This is actually something I’ve run into in my day to day. I changed my full name when I got married because I’ve hated my name for my whole life. My old name was very cute and very white, and I frequently got questions about the beloved children’s show I was named after. It made being a working adult pretty hard. What I didn’t expect was that my new name is heavily assumed to be Latino. I was going for the Italian poet but a few people have been confused to find an absolute honky in the interview.




  • Hey, it’s me, the you that grew up in Kansas!

    I’m 32 this year and I can tell you first hand that it’s not as bad as it looks. I’m so comically flamboyant and feminine that the trans girls at the high school I worked at were coming to me for hair care and outfit advice, never once have I been threatened by some ass backwards bigot. I even spent my mid 20’s hitting on them whenever they creeped on my gal pals.

    Despite teeth like a meth house, ears I can glide with, and the worst case of psoriasis one dermatologist ever saw, my guy friends were always baffled by how my geek ass could land some of the women I dated. The answer is that intense heterosexual love you feel. Every partner I’ve ever had has been genuinely wholly the focus of my affections and they feel that.

    Now I’m married to a fem presenting Non binary who’s not sure if she can call herself ace anymore now that she enjoys sex. I don’t care what she calls herself, she’s my person and I wake up next to her and grin like a loon.

    Sorry for the life story, but my point is that guys like us can make it out there. It can be rocky, especially when it comes to unpacking the damage, but you can thrive. Get your ass to that city, reach out to friends and make some new ones along the way. Don’t let anyone tell you not to be you.

    Hit me up in the DMS, I’d be happy to add you on Discord. You sound fantastic