Can someone do me? 😄 I am super curious

People are making leaving so needlessly difficult. Do you want to leave? Just leave and say that it’s time to leave.

“I think it’s time for me to leave. It has been great seeing you again and hanging out!”

Want people to leave? “I am starting to feel a bit tired, so I think we got to wrap this up”

If you are leaving a party with many people? First say goodbye to the host, then announce it to everyone. “It’s time for me to leave. Was great seeing everyone again!”

Always say goodbye to the host, just leaving is in my opinion a bit rude. People may disagree on this.

I struggled finding a source for this, I’d like to understand it fully. Do you have one?

Could you share some sources on your claim that states are encouraged to incarcerate journalists?

While this is probably not for me. I appreciate the diversity and creativity of humans.

I have seen AI “art” that has moved me emotionally, and been inspiring, increased my immersion etc.

The AI satire video about US workers in a sweatshop factory was politically important, and made me laugh.

I once made a picture of a cat that was busy working tirelessly in the style of Rembrandt, and it was emotionally moving. I saw myself in that cat. 🥲

I and friends used AI for immersion when roleplaying.

This supports your point of giving people the ability to artistically and quickly express ideas without being a skilled artist.

I also believe that the ethical issues of ownership, and theft from authors and artists are huge issues.

The environmental issue is not my biggest concern considering how cheap and quick some genAI can be. So all gen AI isn’t automatically seen as unethical due to environmental concerns to me.

Also, has image generation gotten worse? I feel that all generated images are more “correct” but has this bad look to it now, that it did not previously have.

This is incredibly important. Signal is considered the “gold standard” of encrypted and private communication for a reason.

Some photographer took a picture of a politician in the Trump admin using a Signal clone. That signal clone allowed the user to archive chats to a third party.

Interesting, thanks for sharing

Nice, this seems cool, read a bit about it. I will definitely check it out.

Upvoted.

I have a counterpoint to those claiming that paid are better. By using a privacy oriented search engine, then they don’t know exactly who you are. In theory just your IP. Maybe fingerprinting.

When paying they know exactly who you are. You have to trust them.

So in one case you can protect yourself, in the other you have to trust them.

Also, Kagi also uses the Russian index Yandex 😑

While I agree in theory, in practice open source has a similar amount of expected trust as closed source can have in many cases. I use all sorts of open source software without reading the code. I ain’t got time for that.

I can trust that software from a lot of organizations are trustworthy even if it is closed source, but I can’t trust any open source repo without reading the code. I habe to use other ways to evaluate it, is it probable that someone has audited it? Is it popular? Is it recognized as safe and trustworthy? Is the published and finished build the same as the one I would get if I built it myself?

But yes, you can never be 100% certain without open source and auditing it yourself.

I do trust that my travel pass app from a government organization doesn’t install malware / spyware on my phone. I can’t trust a random github repo even if it is open source.

We had some emergency law that was almost passed recently. As in it passed the first of two rounds. The second voting round is just a formality, all laws are just passed after the first in practice. Luckily some law professor raised the alarms and it did not pass the second time. So within a couple of hours margin it was stopped.

The law gave the government the ability to force people to do a lot of stuff, work any job at any place in Norway. If you do not comply you could get up to three years in prison. It would not be a problem with the current or any government in the near future, but it is a law. And we can’t have laws that rely on trusting politicians. Because we might have politicians with anti democratic tendencies in the future

I think certain arguments work, and certain don’t.

I live in a very high trust society, Norway. This has a lot of advantages, but also some downsides.

We trust eachother, our neighbours, our government and our media. Which is fantastic, and well deserved. The government deserves the trust.

This makes it hard for me to make people realize how important privacy is, because they trust organizations with their data.

During COVID, Norway made their own app for tracking who met to prevent the spread. Of all the apps in the world, Norway wanted to push about the least privacy friendly app in the world. This from a country with the highest press freedom and rankings for democracy. Most people though it was fine, because why not? We trust our government.

https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2020/06/norway-covid19-contact-tracing-app-privacy-win/

Luckily someone protested enough, and it got scrapped for something better.

When I try to convince someone I have a couple of angles:

1. You trust the government and organizations with your data today. But do you trust the government in 30 years? Because data is forever. The US has changed a lot in a very short time, this can happen here as well

2. You have a responsibility for other peoples privacy as well. When you use an app that gets access to all your SMSes and contacts you spy on behalf of companies on people that might need protection. Asylum seekers from other countries for instance.

This is why I subscribe to lemmyshitpost

Interesting perspective. I think I kinda agree.

I have a logical view of the universe as deterministic and that nothing matters, but my feelings contradict this, which is fine.

However, the thought that life HAS to have meaning as something negative is a new perspective, in that it implies moral and ethics.

Kudos for trying to stay in the marriage. Not because of the oath, but for yourself. I can imagine that the hurt must have been immense and that the temptation to leave and start fresh was big.

When I was younger this was black and white for me. As I have grown older I have realized that life is not that simple. I have been fortunate enough to not experience this myself, but after a relationship for 11 years I can understand why people stay after cheating.

It’s so easy for someone to say that it is black and white on social media. You see it all the time with all sorts of things related to relationships and human behaviour.

Having your perspective in this is really valuable, thanks for sharing.

If you want out of the marriage, then this is the time. No point in working on a marriage you don’t want.

If you want to stay then:

Couples counselling. Seriously. It is not cheap, but it’s a lot cheaper than a divorce. It also resolves unhealthy tension and issues in the relationship. You might even get out of it with a lot better marriage than before you cheated.

Do that for a long time. Show that you care by taking initiative, and resolve this with a counsellor and your spouse.

I also believe it is possible to regain trust, and to forgive.

You did a bad thing, but don’t let it define you. Now you got to set it right, show her that you actually care about her. Do the hard work and make the relationship stronger than ever.

You should not tell anyone you cheated, if your wife does, then you have to accept that. She might feel that this affects her honor and standing amongst other people. So let her decide if people should know or not.

Anyways, good luck! Be patient and be kind. You can do it! 👍

Logically I am a determinist and a nihilist. It’s the only thing that makes sense to me.

But I can’t live life like that. Life is lived through feelings and it feels like I have free will. So I feel meaning by contributing positively and that my choices in life matter.

So, I contribute, try to do good, be helpful and nice to people, and also fulfill some hedonistic desires such as good food, lovemaking, shows, etc.

Having some distance while working on yourself is probably better. Maintaining friendships at least somewhat. Everybody needs and deserves human connection. If you believe you are toxic to other people and harm them, then limit the amount of time per person. But remember, it’s not only your responsibility, if they are bothered by your toxicity, then they also have a responsibility towards themselves. Do not make that decision for people, maybe you are not as toxic as you believe.

Being toxic is also not a permanent state of being. People change, and they do it all the time.

I have friends that struggle with mental issues, they can be too much sometimes. It is however always nice to spend a couple of hours here and there. Life is not black and white. You are not either toxic or not toxic. Most people can be pleasant for a couple of hours once in a while.

If you believe you are toxic, then fake it til you make it. Be fake positive and fake nice for an hour or two, after a while it will become second nature, and then it will become who you are. If you have views that you consider toxic, then challenge them. Use UnpopularOpinion or other forums to discuss then. If your views differ from most other people, then maybe it’s something you should challenge. Either you convince people or you are convinced.

If you realize you said or did something toxic, just apologize.

Just giving up is harmful towards yourself. You deserve happiness.