In the early 90s in sex ed they told us all, as a group, that men are only looking for sex to get a load off and women are nothing but submissive cum dumpsters except and of course obviously your life partner who you submit to on your wedding night and stay with forever. Literally we were taught this in public school. It’s no wonder people view sex and gender the way you do. Nowadays thankfully we view both sex and gender as individual.

To respond to your original idea, it sounds like a compromise. When you find the right person (and there’s someone for everybody) you won’t have compromise on that core, basic level. That’s what sexual compatibility is.

You’d have to also find a man who is only interested in sex to “get his needs met” which is much more rare than Hollywood leads people to believe.

Imagine needing to be angry about something in order to be motivated to change it.

That portrayal you describe is marketing and nothing more. It’s similar to hating Christmas because you don’t like the Hallmark Channel. Many, many, many, many women watch sports and if you go to a game it’s about half women. Watching sports is and has always been a family activity.

When I started saying “I can’t do that, I’m an important guy with shit to lose” I became an adult.

Yes this is the internet, a daily reminder that everything could always be taken more literally.

If it weren’t for people complaining about swastikas I’d almost never see one.

I saw that post too. I noticed it was a woman-only space and muted it. Godspeed to them, people deserve to have communities like that.

I think that reflects the biggest conspiracy of the modern age tbh. As long as everyone’s focused on specific aspects of American politics (as they do worldwide) they aren’t focused on areas of their own lives where they can make positive change, political or otherwise. And here in the US, our political leaders actually love it that everyone’s obsessed with one person in one branch of our government because it’s the politics that affects their lives the least and they can do the least about. It’s actually smarter to focus on yourself and managing your own affairs.

What do you say to people who tell you “But everything is political!! You’re participating in politics by not participating!” or “Wow such privilege, being able to just ignore <this routine political event that everyone is frothing at the mouth about today>”?

Ok fed.

There are many words you can use that don’t involve ableist language. If you’re using that word against someone you don’t like, you’re exposing that you have a problem with the folks the slur is intended to describe. Anyone who uses bigoted speech is no comrade of mine, and I don’t care who it’s used against.

Your hurt is valid. You got given something you don’t want and now you feel pressured to accept it to appease your partner. It’s in certain ways worse than getting nothing.

Can you explain this? I was always taught to accept the sentiment and just receive the gift. I certainly wouldn’t suggest returning a gift.

Ok but I think making that joke using someone else’s minority status is pig behavior. But I was a teenager in the 90s when someone else thinking you’re gay could get you an ass-beating or get you fired from your job or worse (Matthew Shepard). Being an ally to lgbt folks in a lot of ways meant keeping your mouth shut way more than it meant speaking out. Maybe it’s different nowadays.

In Brazil the property owner is responsible for everything up to the edge of the road in a lot of places, including building and maintaining sidewalks…they go to shit and nobody fixes them lol

Or your cousin with the conservative parents who isn’t out and still lives at home…

For God’s sake please don’t do this.

Edit: So go ahead and use other people’s sexuality as a joke. Your business, not mine.

Ok but please clean your sidewalks, people. Don’t use the environment as an excuse to be a bad neighbor. We still need to use the sidewalks.

That’s not a denial.

If you think there’s anything sexual going on in these photos, you are probably a pedophile.

I would have said alcohol but it’s a little early for that. I think OP may have sexual feelings for children and he’s trying to normalize those feelings by saying that all contact between adult men and young children is sexual somehow.