“how the hell do you know what I want?”

That’s an inherently aggressive statement.

It’s fine, but no reasonable person would think much differently.

Also, generalizing me with “you all” is a defensive catch-all to be dismissive of my point without actually making a stand for your own values.

It’s just a you-and-me conversation right now

Read: “contextually” and “sounds more like”

If you don’t like how you’re being called out then you should be introspective into why a generic statement made you so upset.

It’s not gaslighting when there’s a straight line of evidence.

To the wider world it looks like this: “Why do people think I don’t like dogs?! Just because I said I don’t like that you can’t kick dogs without getting a ticket nowadays! I didn’t kick any, I’m just saying!”

Define “free speech,” because contextually what you want sounds more like “speech without consequence” which is not the same thing, but rather a veil of plausible deniability in which to hide in, while being hateful.