• XM34@feddit.org
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    8 months ago

    Oh wow, another meme completely disregarding a problem many are struggeling with. But don’t worry guys and gals, it’s okay because it’s making fun of mens’ suffering. And men can’t be discriminated against.

    On another note, has anyone figured out yet, why men are never emotionally available? It truly is a mystery 🤔

    /s in case you can’t tell.

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      8 months ago

      Silly men just need to understand that saying “I’m lonely” and “women belong in the kitchen” are equivalent. So don’t you dare ever talk or reach out if you’re lonely.

      It’s a real shame that male loneliness is so quickly dismissed because it would be a great starting point to begin talking about how traditional male friendships tend to keep each other at a distance, and maybe come up with ways to bridge the gap so existing friendships can become deeper.

      Instead it feels like the conversation just gets to this point where we all collectively shrug and say, “shame” and never really talk about it more than this.

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          8 months ago

          I mean yeah. To start with, casual homophobic phrase: “{blank} is gay” is a very common, very quick social check on behavior; it’s saying to be careful of being too effeminate, or too lame, uncool.

          I think for children, they first use the phrase more to mean “lame”, it’s edgy for them and therefore interesting because it’s as close to cursing as they can get without cursing. I think that by the time they grow old enough to understand that the phrase can be homophobic, it’s likely that the phrase “don’t be gay” has already been repeated enough that it creates an unconscious tension to still try to “not be gay”, even if the phrase isn’t used anymore because “that would be gay.”

          I think confronting children’s fear of appearing “lame” would go a long way in promoting men’s willingness to discover how to have deeper bonds with each other, even if it could be awkward at first.

          edit: wording

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      8 months ago

      There is a male loneliness problem. The meme is making fun of the toxic dickheads that are part of the problem and lack the self awareness to realize it.

      “Why don’t the people I treat like shit like me?!”

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        8 months ago

        You’re reading it as being directed toward toxic men only, I’m reading it as blaming the male loneliness epidemic on men in general being toxic.

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          8 months ago

          Well, that still ain’t wrong… men are, in fact, generally toxic.

          • That’s just boys being boys
          • boys picking on you means he likes you
          • can you get me a beer
          • well, akshully, this really means…
          • Is it your time of the month again?
          • Lovable Sidekick@lemmy.world
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            8 months ago

            Yeah, quoting a few things said by or about the worst possible guys in the world really makes a solid rational point there. Almost as smart as pointing out a few black dudes in prison to prove black people are criminals. Just all-around fucking genius level there, congrats!