Years ago I read a reddit thread saying you shouldn’t pursue friendships or relationships at your workplace. Then I again see all over the places over the internet that friendships don’t happen a lot after you become working adult and that they’re struggling make new friends. My question is If you don’t purse friendships, how would those happen?

Want to know about the thoughts of people over here.

  • Churbleyimyam@lemm.ee
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    19 days ago

    Of course you should - make friends with whoever you like! I’ve made friends with colleagues and am still friends with them years after I left.

    The only reason I can think of not to is if you or they are loads of drama and you don’t want to bothered by it at work.

    People are people wherever you meet them.

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      19 days ago

      The other downside is the situation I’m in. I made friends with a bunch of coworkers, then I got promoted to be their boss. Makes for a very strange power dynamic, where I have to code stitch between boss mode and friend mode.

      Plus, I’ve had to fire people who I’ve been friends with for years. That fucking sucks.

      • lemmy_outta_here@lemmy.world
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        19 days ago

        I turned down a promotion this year for several reasons, one being that i didn’t want to supervise my friends. I didn’t want the awkwardness, and i was afraid my imposter syndrome would get much worse. My friends know too much, haha

      • fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com
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        19 days ago

        Been there. The worst part is how it sours you going forward. I have rarely made friends at work since then, coworkers or employees, because you never know. Missed out on what could have been good friendships, but it also happened again at another job, so hard to say if it was for the better.