Not are you ready to die. Are you emotionally prepared to die?
You must log in or # to comment.
No
My wife (39) died in October. Her breast cancer moved to her brain and over 20 days she went from perfect function to not being able to speak or move and being in excruciating pain. Sometime over those three weeks I made peace with my eventual death.
I dont believe in an afterlife but I hope there is one just so I can see her again. But either way life is to hard to wish to live forever. Immortality is a young persons wish. When you get older and you see what life takes from you piece by piece you come to realize that the end is not to be feared but welcomed just so the pain stops.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’ve been there. Cared for my dad while he had brain cancer. Everyday was a struggle. 3 years of watching the man who made me who I am just disappear. By the end he was no one. I think about it everyday and it has been almost a decade. I’m sorry for your loss. I don’t believe in an after life either but your right about the hope to see them again. Stay strong. Much love!
deleted by creator
Motherfucker, I’m not emotionally prepared to do the dishes
Yes, i am. I had a challenging health episode last year, and am a member of a legal framework for assisted dying. I worked through the emotions, the letting go and the planning. It was very liberating, hard and sad. And I think I grew as a person in the process. I had a good life, and am happy I can live more, but I can confidently say I know how it feels, and if the world goes to shit I am out of here. I am not suicidal at all and enjoy family and my body, food, music, etc.
Yes. I’ve met enough people and seen enough things. It’s not going to get better.
Also we’re rapidly heading towards a future without topsoil, fresh water and breathable air. Oh and resource wars/ww3. Good times right?
United Nations: 90% of Earth’s topsoil at risk of depletion by 2050
World Economic Forum: Global freshwater demand will exceed supply 40% by 2030, experts warn
Stockholm University: Seven of nine planetary boundaries now breached
Hopefully cancer or something gets me before shit gets really bad in my area.
Yes. Please strike me down where I stand.
This is an impossible question to answer with certainty for pretty much everyone. Maybe the extremely suicidal or the terminally ill, but likely not anyone else.
Death (and our perceived relationship to it) changes with our proximity to it. So, being existentially and emotionally prepared for death when you’re young is very different from when you’re old, and from when death is pretty much imminent. I would wager even people who report a high degree of confidence that they are prepared for their eventual death are less so (and likely much less so) when they are facing imminent death. I imagine the number of people who don’t experience fear when their death is imminent is actually quite low.
I have considered myself prepared for death for much of my adult life, but since sometime in my 30’s I have also accepted that I can’t predict my preparedness in the months-to-moments before I die. The existential threat of your existence ending is simply too dependent on its immediacy to be predicted with certainty ahead of time.
Well and eloquently put.
deleted by creator
I have never wanted to be here. This world is shit. Humans are shit. There’s too many shit people.
AFAIK no one asked to be born. Not even shit people. Just in case you were keeping that receipt for a return at anyone in particular.
Can you explain your comment further, please? It’s worded very interestingly, but I’m having a hard time getting it.
Are you saying that one should not care about shitty people?
That but more so: Don’t become a shitty person. Everyone struggles. Some in dangerous ways, some in quiet ways.
Don’t take it entirely personally or fixate on just shitty people.and the fact that no one asked to be born kinda sets the field that no one is really owed more than anyone else when it comes to existing. This means we are accountable to ourselves just as much as we think everyone else should be accountable.
If you just sit there and count all the shitty people and overlook anything good just to fulfil a prediction there is a good chance you’re swaying to the shittier side.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s ok to vent or get upset about shitty people, and it’s important to watch for the signs and look out for them. just try to expand your everyday thoughts to include more than just to the shitty people to really get a sense of life and it says a lot about who you really are becoming in that moment . Especially towards other people outside of you.
Just try this once in a while : take a position as if you’re a good person and you did something good. Maybe you did something really nice and selfless for someone else. Now how would you feel in the face of someone overlooking you and all that you did just so they can point out all the shitty people on their life? Would you think of them as a good person? Or a shitty one?
I think I know what you’re saying.
“Don’t waste time with shitty people, don’t become a shitty person.”
But the reasons go over my head. “Because nobody is owed anything for existing” and “Because it’s not okay to be shitty when people do good to you” sound disconnected.
But that’s okay. If you want to elaborate further, I’ll be happy to continue reading. I won’t blame you if you don’t.
Thank you for expanding further.
I’ve had a couple close calls and while that puts urgency and importance in perspective it did shit for anxiety or existential dread about death. I think there’ll always be something else I want to do or time I want to spend with, but for emotionally preparing for death I think the 3 biggest positive effects have been deconstructing from my childhood indoctrinated belief in a utopia afterlife, an epic dose of shrooms in my 20s that helped with death anxiety and just anxiety in general, and grieving over the death of friends and family and understanding the process of death better by being there for someone as they experienced their last weeks.
Not at all, and I don’t think I ever will. I want to see what will happen in the future, I want to learn everything, sadly that wont happen.
I’m happy with existence and desperate about it ending.
Yes, I simply don’t find enjoyments anymore that make me say “oh, I am so glad to be alive”. Not that I am rushing to die, it’s simply… waiting for my time to run out. Modern world doesn’t prioritize enjoyment anymore and interaction with friends and family as it doesn’t bring shareholder value.
Nope. Got too much shit to do.
Emotionally? Maybe. I have so many things that I still want to do that death is not even on the radar, and wasn’t even on the radar when I was a socially isolated and depressed teen. So I am not ready, but I would be able to accept it.
Mentally? Yes. As an atheist, I am of the firm belief that everything that has a beginning has an end, and death itself holds no fear for me.
Rather, it is the potentially-painful process of dying that has me nervous. And the concept of wanting to wrap things up and just shut it all down, but being stuck in hospice and no longer having a legal right to do so, is absolutely terrifying for me. Which is why I am now walking my Octogenarian parents through the process of MAiD such that they can still leverage it whenever they want to and for as long as possible; to give them the agency to flip that switch as they see fit. Supporting and maintaining their right of self-determination and agency right to the very end is probably the biggest gift I could ever give them.
Physically? Dear goodness, I hope not. Seeing as my own father is inching rather close to 90, and doing so in good physical condition, gives me hope that I can get another three-plus decades under my belt as well. I just hope I won’t mirror his cognitive decline.
Yes, since I already experienced it once. Before that I was terrified.
Same
Welcome back, what happened? I’d like to know.
(My heart stopped 27 minutes.)
Do you have anything similar to survivors guilt, trying and having to just live on on this messed up world?
Thank you, you too!
I had a couple genetic syndromes that made me sickly and wound up with strep throat and MRSA in my kidneys at the same time. Died in my sleep on the couch at home and was gone for 5 hours. When I got back close to my old body I saw it was no longer viable, so I told my higher self what type of place I was wanting to go and it directed me to this timeline. I brought all my memories from the old one tho and this place is slightly different. And apparently I was an ass before the old timeline me took over bc the stuff friends told me I had said was wild, I went on an apology tour for a couple months. I don’t have the genetic syndromes or infections in this timeline tho, so I’m in worlds of less pain. My scoliosis is gone too. Also my father is still alive, I now have a half-sister, and my half-brother no longer has Down Syndrome
No survivor’s guilt tho, and since I came here on purpose I’m not all “fuck this timeline” 😂 This is the place to be to get to where “everyone can learn to heal themselves like I did (by understanding consciousness creates matter.)” I’ve seen a lot of cool stuff online towards that end in the almost 8 yrs since I got here. I do have some mild curiosity about what happened to my old body and to the “me” I took over from in this timeline. Closest I can find online is the concept of “walk-ins.”
Why do you think you carry survivor’s guilt? Hmm… maybe think of it like… there’s tons of timelines, so if you wanted to survive there were lots of options and you found one. This place really is better than where I came from, there’s Mandela Effects here for one. That dude was just dead where I came from, so there was no effect named after him. Didn’t find out he had lived til awhile after I got here, I laughed so hard!! A ton of ppl came with me to this timeline bc they also wanted to be in the one where ppl can heal, and I often wonder if they’re the ones that remember things like I do
Oh okay thanks for sharing, that’s wildly different. Although I scientifically believe multiverse (as in black and white holes and limits of visibility by speed of light) I do not believe we can carry over.
I am happy for you to be good!
I carry the damages (and documents) from dying and regarding similarities to survivors guilt I was referring to most people telling me how lucky I was and how thankful I must be when from my perspective I survived, am off worse and expected to just go on as before and be thankful about it.
It’s not easy to understand and relate, that’s why I thought you might experience this similarly. However with the differences in our experiences it’s logical to not have.
You could possibly relate to the series undone.
Yeah there’s a lot of differences between my NDE and ones I read about online. You’re welcome tho, I’m glad to have read about your experience as well!
I love that series! Borrowed it from a middle schooler a few years ago 😂 me loving it made her actually want to read, so I was like ha, cool!
Ah, that’s a misunderstanding!
I am referring to another undone:
https://m.imdb.com/de/title/tt8101850/
It’s about realities and perception, as I understand similar to you.
Oooohh, yeah I mixed up Unwound (books) and Undone 😂 I’ve seen Undone, I like it a lot bc one time I got a cut on my finger at work and couldn’t be bothered with it, so I said “That didn’t happen” and it blurred and disappeared. Maybe she moved the keys a similar way?
What happened?
Basically my heart (and consecutively my breathing) stopped 27 minutes. I was very lucky to be immediately resuscitated and have quick emergency response. The statistical chances of coming back from that without damage is very low.
Any secret to share from the other side? Lol
Well, nothing. That is the secret. As before (the own) life, as during (dreamless) sleep.
Yeah thats what i thought too
NDE like me probably. It’s not scary out there
A little more than near 😁
Haha, yeah mine was actual not near, too 😂
Ah okay I figured nde was near death and not death 😁
It is technically supposed to be near-death, but I have no other words to describe it so I use that term. “Timeline jumping” is a fad on reddit, so is “reality shifting” and “glitch in the matrix,” but the closest I’ve come to finding something that describes what I did is the concept of time being simultaneous and there’s actually just “possibility/probability vortexes” and I just directed my consciousness to a different vortex. That comes from the Law of One channelings (free at www.lawofone.info/s/1.) They also describe densities that we go through during our consciousness’s evolution, which I described as “layers” when I was going up then back down them in my NDE. But yeah, my old body wasn’t viable anymore, there was no going back to that timeline or vortex or whatever
Yes, no and perhaps.
Yes, because, simply put, it is inevitable. It is the only certain thing. I will end.
No, because I don’t want to leave those who need or may need me to be left alone. I would like to see all those I love and cherish grow, build their families and carve their place into the world.
Perhaps, because there is nothing I can do to prevent, avoid or delay it. It will happen. When it happens, it will be sad but it will have to happen.
That’s it.
