So, I posted about not wanting to shave despite my family and the guy I like wanting me to. Someone on another social media platform (I know Lemmy isn’t like other social medias sometimes) said that it was because the guy I like was transphobic and saw me as a girl. Is his behavior transphobic for wanting me to shave my private areas and legs? I think it’s just a preference…
I am feminine, I just don’t like that. I am, however, fine with women’s clothes/femboy clothes tho I switch between masc and fem.
No one can tell you whether he perceives you as a guy or not. That’s something only he knows for sure, and something that you are best placed to determine for yourself.
And if he perceives you as a guy, but likes you to be feminine, and you’re ok with that, then there is no problem. If he perceives you as a guy, and likes you to be feminine, and you’d prefer not to be, then that’s going to be an issue for you and for him at some point.
And if he doesn’t perceive you as a guy, you need to decide whether or not you give him time to come around, because if he sees a girl, it’s never going to feel good for you as long as he continues to do so.
Thank you 🙏