Hi. So I (15F/M) have a sister ‘Cecilia’ (13F). Cecilia and our uncle have had a long history of arguing. Not only is our uncle racist, but he is also a bit transphobic to me in the past especially, and a misogynist who used to beat his ex-wife and current wife whenever he was angry, which he claimed was because of the medication he was on/alcohol, IDK.
One day, he tried to ask Cecilia to get him back with his ex-wife who already has a husband and a kid. However, Cecilia said no. He called her a traitor, she blocked him, and he told me to “tell Cecilia fuck you”.
Our grandma, however, the Mom of our uncle and dad, told Cecilia she should apologize and “admit her wrongdoing” so they could be a whole family again.
Is Cecilia TA for refusing to apologize and not forgiving our uncle?
My vote, but this is me: NTA.
Grandma ITA. OP please understand she just doesn’t want to admit she’s a failure as a parent. If she can force you to accept her son’s behaviour than she can keep lying to herself and ignoring what a shitty person she raised.
The argument with your sister is the least weird and unhinged part of you uncles activities. Me personally, I’d notify that lady. Sounds like uncle is a stalker.
Parents have a limited ability to determine the actions of offspring. Grandma and uncle may both be TA, but grandma may also be as good a parent as she could be. Let us judge each based on their own words. There is no need to hold grandma responsible for uncle’s faults.
Weren’t not talking about her in the past. She’s a shitty parent NOW.
Grandma is the one insisting a 13 yo has to apologize to her uncle for not helping him break up his ex wifes new family. She is literally the entire reason for this post. She’s continuing to enable her shitty son by gaslighting a 13 yo girl… so her bad parenting is ongoing.
This is lemmy not the supreme court lmao. Aint no judges here. chill out.