Hi. So I (15F/M) have a sister ‘Cecilia’ (13F). Cecilia and our uncle have had a long history of arguing. Not only is our uncle racist, but he is also a bit transphobic to me in the past especially, and a misogynist who used to beat his ex-wife and current wife whenever he was angry, which he claimed was because of the medication he was on/alcohol, IDK.
One day, he tried to ask Cecilia to get him back with his ex-wife who already has a husband and a kid. However, Cecilia said no. He called her a traitor, she blocked him, and he told me to “tell Cecilia fuck you”.
Our grandma, however, the Mom of our uncle and dad, told Cecilia she should apologize and “admit her wrongdoing” so they could be a whole family again.
Is Cecilia TA for refusing to apologize and not forgiving our uncle?
My vote, but this is me: NTA.
If everything is how you’ve described, Cecilia is not only NOT the asshole, but doing you proud by standing up to a bigoted family member. A lot of families will have that person (your grandmother) who is willing to turn a blind eye to some pretty awful things in the name of Keeping The Family Together. Keep your distance from your uncle, and explain to grandma that it’s uncle that is separating the family, not you.
Agreed.