I’m nonbinary femme. I don’t like masculine or male terms. A few days ago, I was on a group chat with someone and they said “this guy” and used “he/him” pronouns, not knowing my gender. I, however, told them not to address me as a guy and that I preferred neutral terms but was fine with feminine terms as well.
This. If you were casual about it, why would you even need to ask if you were the asshole, just for having boundaries/preferences and expressing them?