Just to be clear—you weren’t banned for saying “bro.” The issue was that a private message was taken and posted publicly.
Which is a nonsense stance to take. You sent me a moderator message clarifying how you took the rules. I posted that screenshot. That’s it. Which means that a stance you are willing to make public is what you’re banning me over. That is it. You said you didn’t want to shame me in public and if that’s true then me posting the message that is supposedly shaming me is my own prerogative. And, once again, this is a stance that you took as a moderator. You then banned me because I made your stance public. The rest of this doesn’t matter. The bro thing is irrelevant. It’s set dressing.
The issue boils down to the fact that you privately made it clear how you stood on the word bro. I made that publicly clear so others could know because I felt it was a silly way to apply that rule. You then banned for that. Meaning that you banned me for making your own stance publicly clear. There was nothing else in that screenshot other than how you were going to apply the rule to the word bro. Ergo, there should have been zero issue with me making that clear to others so they could avoid breaking that rule. You overreacted.
I want you to actually explain to me why what I did was wrong and worth banning.
Which was thrown out the window the second you mentioned moderator actions. At that point it stopped being a message between two users and started being a message between a user and a moderator. If you hadn’t mentioned any moderator stuff, yeah. I would have disagreed with your assessment but I would have respected it and removed the word bro from my comment. But you escalated it by saying “If you keep doing this, then I will do this”. You made it worse. You prepared for the worst and then told me what that preparation would be. If we’re talking about things we find personally insulting or offensive, that’s one of them for me. That means that you’re automatically assuming that I’m going to disregard you and feel the need to back up the words with a stick.
No, you turned it into a conflict when you said “Stop doing it or else”. Moreover, you were speaking as a moderator and clarifying the rules. A clarification you have made public elsewhere. There was nothing in that screenshot that was private when you were DMing it to everyone else when people were downvoting you.
Right. It couldn’t have been you DMing everyone saying “Don’t downvote me or else”. It was my screenshot. Not the fact that the post on /c/asklemmy that you’ve mentioned in this thread was posted by someone else and had this screenshot:
That would imply that it was YOUR behavior that brought upon the wave of harassment, not my own. So I utterly reject this notion that my screenshot was responsible for your petty behavior. You initiated it amongst others. Moreover, you unbanned THAT dude because you said it was a mistake. Yet you’re doubling down on me. Moreover, no one saw my screenshot who didn’t see your comment at the same time. Your comment was downvoted to low hell on its own well before I added that screenshot.
Fair enough on the DMs though and the piefed error. I’ll keep that in mind for myself too.