[Image description: image of text which reads “I like when men explain basic things to me because in my mind it’s not mansplaining, it’s more like when a toddler is really excited to tell you about dinosaurs and you’re like that’s right cutie! You’re so smart!! Only one of us is being condescending and it’s me”, to which Shawn replies “if you have to announce when you’re condescending, you’re doing it wrong.”

OP replies “that’s a great observation, Shawn! Great job!” with a heart emoji]

  • IllNess@infosec.pub
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    5 hours ago

    I taught computer science a long time ago. I have a tendency to simplify concepts to be more easily understood. Most people appreciate this.

    I don’t even remember what it was I was trying to explain, maybe database sharding.

    I was accused of mansplaining when I took the time to answer someone’s question in a meeting. So from that point on when that person that accused me of mansplaining was around I just gave direct definitions. If that person had additional questions, I gave the vaguest answer possible, I repeat the question as an answer, I basically tell them to Google things they should know.

    What is SEO? Please look it up. We only have a certain amount of time for this meeting.

  • ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    1·
    10 days ago

    Fine that’s cool, be condescending, because tbh you’re right that’s exactly what I’m doing, it’s my ADHD and I’m too excited about this thing I just learned about to notice that you’re trying to be mean to me, so it’s a win-win really.

  • 1984@lemmy.today
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    10 days ago

    I wonder how many of those guys are actually trying to put women down, and how many are just trying to be helpful and talk to another human being.

    • apotheotic (she/her)@beehaw.orgEnglish
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      10 days ago

      Its both, except in the case of this post where the person is clearly being snarky and trying to put this woman down.

      Most mansplaining is a man trying to be helpful. The issue arises in that they try to be helpful in situations where, if it was another man, they wouldn’t try to be helpful, because they’d assume the man already knew the thing.

      An obviously stretched out example, but, if someone was dreadfully thirsty and I, out of the absolute kindness of my heart, tried to offer them advice like “Gosh, that sounds awful. I’m so sorry. Have you tried drinking water? I’ve been thirsty before and water always fixes me right up”, I’m sure we’d all agree this is misplaced advice and probably reflects on my perception (or presumptions) of their intelligence.

  • BearOfaTime@lemm.ee
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    11 days ago

    So Ellie is the condescending one here, not the person supposedly “mansplaining”.

    Or at least that’s what she seems to be saying.