I was just grocery shopping and mysteriously had an extra 90$ on my foodcard. So I exclaimed to the cashier, “wow i love surprise extra money”. The person in line behind me said, “i wish i got surprise money”. So I took 5$ and tossed it in her bag, she said “No Wait Dont!” but I had already spun around and was on my way out of the store.
So what was that? Good or bad?
A good deed because it was kindness and generousity? Did her stating she didnt want it make it immoral and thus i should have stayed so she could give it back? Did it all happen as it was supposed to so that she would display herself as nonneedy, I could do the kindness, and, by leaving before anything could change, the state of reality was frozen as is for us beings within?
Please tell me whether I’m good or evil; thank you! :)
You were bragging.
Imagine if you find 90 million instead. You would become thoroughly unbearable.
weird thats one i hadnt considered so either i disagree or am not sure i understand. it happened really fast, was an unusual interaction with a questionable moral aspect, so I thought about it in the car, and then brought it up here cuz not sure what my own conclusion is. i like being kind, but i’m also highly against doing things to others against what they want for themselves. For me it was definitely questionable.
Maybe I don’t understand you?
Having a foodcard means i’m poor btw, not rich, which I openly egolessly say. i guess just your comment is weird to me and im having a hard time connecting it to anything and not seeing where it’s applicable while all the other comments generally make sense and answer it was a morally good thing to do independent of the questionable part.
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I mean you were looking down on her.
But what did you imagine about her wealth? Or her neediness?
Let’s turn it around: I am the one with the money now. What if I would offer you in public: I will give you another $90 if I can insult you afterwards, and then you agreed just because you needed the money so badly?
Maybe your next grocery shopping would be secured, but you would be humiliated, even before I started insulting you.
Back to your story: That’s why she tried to refuse the 5$. But then you forced it on her.
Wow, you need to look inward. You’ve either been hurt or you dislike people trying to be decent.
oh interesting thank you for explaining. i do understand! that is sort of what i was thinking as far as wondering if i had done an actual good deed or if it could cause an overall net negative like that. You see the net negative possibility of how it turned out that also caught my attention i think.
unrelated because my behavior wasnt based on it, but in answer to your question she seemed middleclass and not poor nor a scrounger; probably wealthier than me (my behavior was a combination of ‘sharing bounty that just befell me, doing good deed, plus she had just wished it’. It was a rare opportunity to instantly fulfill someone’s wish. Didn’t think of class stuff at all in the moment, but also i rarely do as a person)
thank you for the explanation! I appreciate the perspective!